Worried about my partner

I was just wondering WN...do you know much about his early life, how he found life at school, was he very sociable or a bit more solitary, do you know how he got on (gets on) with his family?

I suppose the question does come up... might you actually seek a diagnosis for him in the end or are you just seeking to make him aware of what he may be either blind to or has trouble dealing with...to show him he's not alone in thinking, behaving, feeling a certain way? To make your relationship stronger?

If he's successful in his career and has never had problems in that area, perhaps a diagnosis would not help as opposed to another hypothetical guy who might have really struggled to get a place where he could function OK in society.

I quite like the idea True Colors came up with..but I would add something like...everyone (or someone) was doing this at work (AQ etc.), I had a go and it seems like I have some of the traits and then say someone else (a girl of course)  made a joke along the lines...aren't all guys a bit Aspie on some level... and then hint a little about having a go at an online test or begin doing the online test, seem uttterly, I mean UTTERLY focussed on it and then see if he'll have a go...I don't know if this is helping...

My partner was classic Aspie and I knew within a month something wasn't right (compared to previous girlfriends) so it's hard to turn this around for me gender-wise.

I'm  not asking you to share but I wonder what it was that drew you to him in the first place...or made you want to make the relationship more permament.

I've always been a bit odd myself, my relationships tended to last for weeks or a few months but I finally found someone as 'interesting' as myself and we've been together nearly ten years now.

Another thing Tony Attwood does is to compare how NTs and Aspies describe love...how do you think your partner would describe love? Don't ask him though if it would irritate him!!!

Anyway just some ideas. Please persist with him though if he really is a great guy. My Aspergirl is my world. Every day is an adventure of one kind or another.

I was just wondering WN...do you know much about his early life, how he found life at school, was he very sociable or a bit more solitary, do you know how he got on (gets on) with his family?

I suppose the question does come up... might you actually seek a diagnosis for him in the end or are you just seeking to make him aware of what he may be either blind to or has trouble dealing with...to show him he's not alone in thinking, behaving, feeling a certain way? To make your relationship stronger?

If he's successful in his career and has never had problems in that area, perhaps a diagnosis would not help as opposed to another hypothetical guy who might have really struggled to get a place where he could function OK in society.

I quite like the idea True Colors came up with..but I would add something like...everyone (or someone) was doing this at work (AQ etc.), I had a go and it seems like I have some of the traits and then say someone else (a girl of course)  made a joke along the lines...aren't all guys a bit Aspie on some level... and then hint a little about having a go at an online test or begin doing the online test, seem uttterly, I mean UTTERLY focussed on it and then see if he'll have a go...I don't know if this is helping...

My partner was classic Aspie and I knew within a month something wasn't right (compared to previous girlfriends) so it's hard to turn this around for me gender-wise.

I'm  not asking you to share but I wonder what it was that drew you to him in the first place...or made you want to make the relationship more permament.

I've always been a bit odd myself, my relationships tended to last for weeks or a few months but I finally found someone as 'interesting' as myself and we've been together nearly ten years now.

Another thing Tony Attwood does is to compare how NTs and Aspies describe love...how do you think your partner would describe love? Don't ask him though if it would irritate him!!!

Anyway just some ideas. Please persist with him though if he really is a great guy. My Aspergirl is my world. Every day is an adventure of one kind or another.