Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello I really need help as I am feeling so fed up and sad about the way life is and with life being unfair when it should not be unfair at all as we are all humans and that everyone should be treated as individuals and equally just the same as everyone else. Also that everyone should finally get what they want as we all have rights and that rights apply to all of us. I feel like giving up sometimes on life and everything because I just cannot cope anymore with the way I have been treated like being treated badly or unfairly and not having any positives in my life at all. I just want the world and life to change and also get better for me and others that are going through the same thing as me and that life should never be unfair and that everyone should be allowed to have their freedom and to be more independent as much as they want at a young age as life should not be unfair in situations like that.
Sholay09... Please do not bite my head off at this reply, but... It would help you a great deal, to pay a good attention to, and to carefully think through, many of the replies you have so far recieved, to your many Questions (and/or complaints about life), via the Threads which you yourself have begun, upon this Forum.
It is good to ask Questions, but it is not good to ignore the Answers.
Think about your own position, focus upon something UNIQUE about yourself, and then strengthen that... & only then use that to help others. It can be more than one thing. Simply Identify and focus your own experience/knowledge, Please.
(You cannot help other people if you cannot help yourself. And/Or - No-one can progress in life by going around just acting like a NET.)
I should say nothing else unless some support or understanding of what I just said is demonstrated. (I.e. Someone else support me here, Please, Thank You..!?). (Also, if something is not fully understood, such as Politics or the Economy, then try to learn more about it.) Lastly, "Alice" is correct, all of these things which you say upon this Forum should be said to a GP or similar. Print it all out, if you cannot remember all of it. End of My Post.
Disambiguating Cynosure said:(You cannot help other people if you cannot help yourself. And/Or - No-one can progress in life by going around just acting like a NET.)
I agree completely DC.
I remember when I was young, and I used to let a lot of things under my skin. I worked with an older guy who said to me once "You are right to be worried about that son, but you try to fight too many battles. There's always a battle, but sometimes you can't do anything. If your going to fight the world, all you're going to end up doing is getting very tired". If I saw him today I'd thank him for putting that into perspective.
There's things we can have a say in changing, but there are others that the people, countries, or cultures have to change for themselves.
Sholay09 said:Also that everyone should finally get what they want
This part is to Sholay,
Some people want different things. One persons dream, is another persons nightmare. Some people want some very bad things too.
Trying to change the world can be very dangerous. Stalin, and Hitler wanted to "change the world", it ended very badly.
The world is far less violent, and fair, than it was even 50 years ago.
https://youtu.be/feuq5x2ZL-s
That is a video where the man explains, that things are getting better. I hope it makes you worry less.
Ok thank you for that but I just need hope that it will not take years for good things to happen to me and for things to change for the better like for me to finally be treated how I want or should be treated and for me to have a nice boyfriend and more good people in my life as we all deserve it and that it should not take years for these things to finally happen to me as these things can happen to me at anytime and that everything should be the same for everyone and that nothing should take years for nice things to happen to some people or everyone at all as we all need good in our lives.
It can Sholay, I think Alice is right. You might do well with some more support. You might meet some friends, and some people who you have a lot in common with.
I'd contact your local Autism center, as Alice said maybe going to your GP could be helpful in the way of getting more support. He might guide you to someone who can help.
Things can change in a day, but maybe exploring these options will help your chances. Support does change things, in my experience, and you will meet people if you join a group. Some might be very nice, you might find friends there, or maybe a boyfriend.
You might just need to ask for help to get it. There's no harm in trying.
I've had girlfriends in the past, but I'm not with anyone at the moment. I don't feel bad about it. I'm 40. There's still time. I have friends who didn't have a partner until they were way past 30, they are now happily married. I know people who were married at 18, have been divorced a few times, and are deeply unhappy. It's not about just finding someone. It's about finding the right person, or you might not want anyone at all. It's best to just do things at the right pace for you, and not comparing your life to others.
There's no harm in asking for help. That might help you be happy.