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I think my girlfriend has Aspergers, how do I tell her?

billy123
I have recently been diagnosed with having aspergers and for some strange reason I have started obsessionally reading every website and ever book I can find haha!

The more I read about it, the more I see aspergers in my girlfriend:

No empathy
Hypersensivity to smells, tastes, textures and hates people sitting too close to her.
Dreadful social skills, she hasn't made a new friend for years.
Things have to be done her way or she can't stand it.
Takes everything people say incredibly literally.

The list goes on...

One of her brothers has been diagnosed as it's quite clear to see that her other brother and her dad also have it.

The problem is whenever I try to talk about any of the things that she does, she gets very defensive and upset and denies that she does any of these things.

What would be the best way to approach this with her???
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  • Once I started researching ASD I started to see it in everyone.  I think truth is we all have a little bit of it.  I can look at my husband and my mother see lots of ASD traits that in the past have been put down to being unsociable or just rude.  There are people I work with who I think have certain traits as well. 

    The way I see it is they have managed to get to a good age without being diagnosed (my husband is 62 and my mother 78) so good for them they have managed to function, hold down job and raise a family so somehow they have managed to create their own coping strategies without being dianosed so leave well enough alone.  My mother is 78 and still the most embarassing person I know but nothings going to change now.

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  • Once I started researching ASD I started to see it in everyone.  I think truth is we all have a little bit of it.  I can look at my husband and my mother see lots of ASD traits that in the past have been put down to being unsociable or just rude.  There are people I work with who I think have certain traits as well. 

    The way I see it is they have managed to get to a good age without being diagnosed (my husband is 62 and my mother 78) so good for them they have managed to function, hold down job and raise a family so somehow they have managed to create their own coping strategies without being dianosed so leave well enough alone.  My mother is 78 and still the most embarassing person I know but nothings going to change now.

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