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Is my husband on the spectrum?

Johnsmum

I have suspected for some time that my husband might be 'on the spectrum' as well as our son, and he admits himself that he was a strange child who didn't make friends and struggled with some schoolwork (though he now has a Cambridge degree!). Any tips on getting an assessment for him? Does it have to go through the GP or are there affordable private methods (it's very difficult to get him to go to the doctor).

I feel that if he had a diagnosis, I would cope better with aspects of his behaviour, knowing there was a neurological reason for them, rather than him just being awkward!

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  • Hi Johnsmum

    lots of good advice already. 

    I have always regarded diagnosis (dx) as a signpost not a label. If it opens up access to services and benefits go for it. But if you just want confirmation for your own peace of mind do not wait for the diagnosis. If it helps to frame your husband's behaviour in terms of his autism then do it now. 

    What is his attitude to this question? Whether it is an official dx or an acknowledgement by him that he is neurologically different it can take a lot of getting used to. Many people find it liberating. Others regard it as a curse. I do recall an internet discussion from many years ago in which a recently diagnosed adult was bemoaning his fate. He had lost his job. His wife had left him and he had a drink problem.  He was blaming it all on Aspergers. Another AS adult pointed out that lots of neurotypical people had the same problems but, "At least you have a reason. All they have are excuses."

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  • Hi Johnsmum

    lots of good advice already. 

    I have always regarded diagnosis (dx) as a signpost not a label. If it opens up access to services and benefits go for it. But if you just want confirmation for your own peace of mind do not wait for the diagnosis. If it helps to frame your husband's behaviour in terms of his autism then do it now. 

    What is his attitude to this question? Whether it is an official dx or an acknowledgement by him that he is neurologically different it can take a lot of getting used to. Many people find it liberating. Others regard it as a curse. I do recall an internet discussion from many years ago in which a recently diagnosed adult was bemoaning his fate. He had lost his job. His wife had left him and he had a drink problem.  He was blaming it all on Aspergers. Another AS adult pointed out that lots of neurotypical people had the same problems but, "At least you have a reason. All they have are excuses."

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