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Is my husband on the spectrum?

Johnsmum

I have suspected for some time that my husband might be 'on the spectrum' as well as our son, and he admits himself that he was a strange child who didn't make friends and struggled with some schoolwork (though he now has a Cambridge degree!). Any tips on getting an assessment for him? Does it have to go through the GP or are there affordable private methods (it's very difficult to get him to go to the doctor).

I feel that if he had a diagnosis, I would cope better with aspects of his behaviour, knowing there was a neurological reason for them, rather than him just being awkward!

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  • Hi John's Mum. My husband realised that he was on the autistic spectrum years ago when he went to an information day to learn about the background of autism in order to help our son. The penny dropped and although he refuses to get a diagnosis we know that he is AS.

     

    Even without a diagnosis which may prove costly, you now have an explanation for his behaviour. It has certainly helped me to know how to go about things, when I need to back off, when I need to instruct him on what to do in situations. I've also learnt how to put up with his obsessions/areas of special interest! He goes off on what he calls "Gardening Safaris" to track down weird and wonderful pants. I then have to console him when they die due to the dreadful English weather!!! At the moment he is watching back to back episodes of "The Big Bang Theory". It has been "House", old musicals......the list is endless.

    I also learnt how to cope with him during the soccer world cup. Let him watch it and go and find something else to do.

    It's a bit like having curly hair. Stop fighting it and learn how to work with it. We've been through some very difficult times but are still together after nearly 25 years!

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  • Hi John's Mum. My husband realised that he was on the autistic spectrum years ago when he went to an information day to learn about the background of autism in order to help our son. The penny dropped and although he refuses to get a diagnosis we know that he is AS.

     

    Even without a diagnosis which may prove costly, you now have an explanation for his behaviour. It has certainly helped me to know how to go about things, when I need to back off, when I need to instruct him on what to do in situations. I've also learnt how to put up with his obsessions/areas of special interest! He goes off on what he calls "Gardening Safaris" to track down weird and wonderful pants. I then have to console him when they die due to the dreadful English weather!!! At the moment he is watching back to back episodes of "The Big Bang Theory". It has been "House", old musicals......the list is endless.

    I also learnt how to cope with him during the soccer world cup. Let him watch it and go and find something else to do.

    It's a bit like having curly hair. Stop fighting it and learn how to work with it. We've been through some very difficult times but are still together after nearly 25 years!

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