Published on 12, July, 2020
I read on this website that "Other people appear to know, intuitively, how to communicate and interact with each other, but Autistics do not", but believe this statement to be completely untrue in so many ways.
I do not believe that there is any one way to interact and communicate and nor do i believe anyone, even non autistic could possibly be thought of as someone that "knows" how to act and communicate in every given situation.
I believe making wrong statements like this just causes confusion.
Would do you think?
Do you think there are people out there that just intuitively "know" how to act and communicate? In that case, what happens when they come across someone that has more experience and is more intelligent than them?
I know, intuitively, how to act and communicate in any given situation.
Unfortunately, probably due to being autistic, this is not how others expect me to act and communicate. But to me it makes perfect sense and I do not realise I am acting in a 'strange' or 'unacceptable' way.
Not until someone has told me anyway.
So let me understand!
This non autistic person that understands everything and has a great amount of empathy and knows instinctively how to communicate and act has no problem in calling you "strange" and making you feel the size of an ant and completely misunderstanding you, and it is "you" that has the empathy, understanding and rudeness problem?
As far as i can see the only thing wrong with you is that "normal" people are not as great as you think.
They do not know the things you attribute to them and they attribute to themselves.
Maybe the answer to your question is too obvious for you to see?
So far you are not finding it easy to comprehend us, or we you.
I wonder why that might be.
Attitude and lack of acceptance is something we cope with every minute of every day.
I have no idea how you communicate with others but you aren’t doing a very good job here,
Again why do you feel a need to find an answer to this?
will it help you in some way or another.
Will it benefit anyone NT or ND?
Ok well i have called you no names, yet you have called me strange, accused me of being dismissive and disrespectful because i insinuated you had more intelligence than my definition of an Autistic individual.
However you are not really helping me understand, so perhaps there is no point in replying to me as obviously i am not making myself understood and like Alice said, it is going absolutely nowhere.
All the best and good luck
Yes, but that does not make them autistic.
I have been diagnosed autistic by a specialist. The people who you call 'normal' have not. Autistic people have profound problems in these areas. Some aspects of autism are also present in some mental health problem areas. And I do not think that most autistic people would say to anyone who was in need of help for any problem would say that they don't need help because they are autistic.
I find your replies quite dismissive. You appear to be saying that we cannot have a problem because others also may have similar problems. Make no mistake, someone who is autistic does not have problems in just one area. They would not be diagnosed for that alone. We are all different, but some common areas are social misunderstanding, literal thinking, sensory difficulties, prone to anxiety and depression, not being able to process information, socially unacceptable habits, stimming, being very blunt, monotonous speaking, being thought of as 'negative', having meltdowns and shutdowns, as well as the attributes mentioned in other posts.
Yes, you can continue to be devils advocate, but continuing to deny our problems and inferring that the condition does not exist I find immensely disrespectful.
Like Alice I think this is going nowhere.
And you think that "normal" people do not also have needs? also suffer sensory overload? find crowded situations nerve racking? perhaps you just do not notice that they do, but deal with it differently.
Maybe they are just not shy
I am autistic. You may have your ideas of what an autistic person is, and some of those ideas will be at odds with my idea of the reality of this situation.
NTs tend to think I am 'strange' and that some of my behaviour may be 'unacceptable' to the normal. I can no more be an NT than I can fly like a bird.
NTs behave in ways that I sometimes find unacceptable, and I find some of your statements 'strange' and some of your ideas not what I would class as 'acceptable'.
Some autistic people cannot speak. This is not an indicator that they haven't any skills or intelligence- there have been non-verbal autistic people with skills that I an only wonder at.
Some autistic people have no problem with written language but become immensely tongue tied when trying to speak. Some of us can speak fluently, but still may have needs, suffer sensory overload, be unable to cope in a crowded situation and find it well nigh impossible to cope with change imposed by others.
Dum vivimus, vivamus .... or words to that effect.