Addiction

Hello.

I'm going to share some stuff on here about my experiences of addiction. Writing things down seems to help me. Maybe I'll get some helpful feedback or be able to help someone else too. 

I'm a functioning addict and have been for quite some time, I suppose. My first referral to alcohol services actually came on the back of a mental health assessment for CBT. I went through a questionnaire which included my drinking habits. At the end of the questionnaire the lady doing the assessment said, "well we can't treat you because you're classed as alcohol dependant." This came as quite a shock.

I did engage with alcohol services but I lied about drug use (I was using cocaine every weekend). I quit drinking spirits/wine and drank nothing stronger than beer. I was down to maybe 30 units a week. But it crept back up to 70-80 units plus. I didn't do anything for a couple of years. It was affecting my marriage, work, my mental health. It was affecting everything really. My cocaine use was increasing. I was spending too much. I was starting to get physical withdrawal. I felt worse in the mornings if I didn't drink the night before (a reverse hangover I called it). I was wrestles and kind of itchy due to cocaine withdrawal and spent all week thinking/worrying about my habit. 

I finally bit the bullet and went to my G. P. for a referral. Admitted the whole thing. It was incredibly difficult to do. The first session I went to I broke down in. I could feel the tears coming and I had to just let them. When I left I had to sit in the car for 10 minutes before I could compose myself enough to drive. I spent the rest of the day just lying on my bed crying thinking, "how the *** has it come to this?"

Anyway I carried on with a couple if counselling services (one for drugs and one for alcohol) and got some degree of control back. That was about a year ago. I've cut down to 20 units most weeks. The cocaine use is down to about a quarter of what it used to be. But I have behavioural/habitual issues which are proving difficult to break. Im having CBT via a charity called Addaction at the moment. At my session yesterday I set myself a goal to have a sober/clean weekend this weekend. And I got through last night! I did some Thought Records which my therapist gave me. I tried to replace the, "treat" of alcohol and cocaine with the treat of a take away and some sugary drinks. It wasn't easy but it wasn't too hard either. I still have tonight and Sunday to get through but I feel quite confident.

Hopefully I'll get back on here with some positive news at the end of the weekend.

Bye for now. 

Parents
  • Hi, it really is difficult to face up to these kind of issues plus its a bit of a taboo to say the least so extremely difficult knowing who you can and can't reach out to. I guess its about looking at the stark reality about what these addictions stop you from doing in life how do they hold you back, why do you want to change? Agree with replacing yes totally, think of other things you could do with the money! Meh, I'm not very good at just saying if you want to vent message me been there myself its really not easy at all as you already know just friend request me if you want to.

  • Thanks Here4achat. I think that's why I've chosen to post on a forum. I can say what I want in relative anonymity. If people want to judge they are judging to my avatar and not to my face. I didn't know I could friend request. I'll look into that. Thanks again for the feedback.  

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  • Thanks Here4achat. I think that's why I've chosen to post on a forum. I can say what I want in relative anonymity. If people want to judge they are judging to my avatar and not to my face. I didn't know I could friend request. I'll look into that. Thanks again for the feedback.  

Children
  • Absolutely agree. There shouldn't be a stigma in asking for help but unfortunately there is. I would be terrified of talking to my employer about drug addiction. I think I'd just be sacked and end up in a worse situation. 

  • yeah exactly, I don't really care too much about judgement but unfortunately it does happen and its something that needs to be talked about as its a huge part of life for people that use. Its hard to find other mood changers but it is possible I've just been doing an emotional coping skills course which has helped a lot :)