Living with the in laws

Im 31 and have just been diagnosed with aspergers and I’m living with the in laws(saving for a mortgage). I’ve made the mistake of telling them of my diagnosis, I was explains to the mother in law about my lack of compassion and that I don’t consiously feel love(but obviously do as I’m still with my wife, care about her and got help so I could try and better myself for her) to which she replied if she knew this before we go married she wouldn’t of aloud it. 

Well I told my wife straight after this happened, she text her dad who then got hold of the mom which resulted in everyone getting pissed off. 

We were supposed to have sat down that evening to talk about it(of which I was dreading as you can prob understand) it never happened. 

So I text mothe in law the next day to ask if we could just forget about as it was too much on an already full plate for my wife and to just be civil. 

Well 3 days later, no one is speaking to each other, my insecurities are going haywire and I feel as isolated as ever, I haven’t felt like this since I went to do my gcse’s In a year of 500+ people of which not one spoke to or aknoleged me!

Anyway I just wanted to vent and any advice would be appreciated or just someone to talk to, to know I’m not alone would be very helpful. And if someone could by me a house that would help to lol. 

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  • Why is it that whenever you tell people about your diagnosis it totally backfires on you? :-(

    I stopped telling people anything. 

  • I’ve realised some people are open to it, even if they don’t understand they are willing to learn. Then other are just ignorant and insensitive ie mother in law lol

  • Agree with everything you've said. I've met some beautiful NT's as well.. They didn't know why I wanted to be alone, but they didn't mind. They're still friends when I wanted to talk. Beautiful people.

  • That’s so nice. Ur very lucky to have friends. I myself am unfortunate and have none so now my eyes are leaking too lol

  • I've been very fortunate that way with the group of friends that I've had, and it's actually led to me getting to know my first autistic friends in real life. When I disclosed my formal diagnosis, two others in our group revealed that they'd been diagnosed in middle age too, and the openness about it since then has led one other to seek a diagnosis. We'd all known each other for well over a decade by the time of my diagnosis, and none of us had the slightest inkling about either ourselves or any of the others for all those years.

    I thought at first it was an odd coincidence to have so many autistic people in such a small group of friends. But then I realised that the beautiful NTs had inadvertently brought us together by being people among whom we all felt so accepted (my eyes seem to have started leaking.)

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  • I've been very fortunate that way with the group of friends that I've had, and it's actually led to me getting to know my first autistic friends in real life. When I disclosed my formal diagnosis, two others in our group revealed that they'd been diagnosed in middle age too, and the openness about it since then has led one other to seek a diagnosis. We'd all known each other for well over a decade by the time of my diagnosis, and none of us had the slightest inkling about either ourselves or any of the others for all those years.

    I thought at first it was an odd coincidence to have so many autistic people in such a small group of friends. But then I realised that the beautiful NTs had inadvertently brought us together by being people among whom we all felt so accepted (my eyes seem to have started leaking.)

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