Published on 12, July, 2020
It has not really sunk in yet.
I had lost her way before this - she never got over the death of her husband in 2015, she became decapacitated mentally in 2017 after a stroke and a fall.
Deepest sympathy.
Talk to us if it helps at this difficult time.
I will do. Right now I am still no utterly snowed down with work, some finishing soon but new ones starting. The funeral will be hideous, there will be decisions about what to do with the house where we grew up I think it will really hit to go back there, with no parent there. Dad died in 2015. So much now is irrevocably gone. Not brother and his wife though. They are still there and there are still difficulties with them.
nexus9 said:The funeral will be hideous, there will be decisions about what to do with the house
How much has been spelled out in her will?
Depending upon the answer there may be more or less than you expect with regard to decisions.
Is there someone such as a neighbour or friend that can be at the house with you?
nexus9 said:I do feel a little paranoid occasionally
"It's not paranoia if they're really out to get you..." (!)
I do. Definitely.
I know. I do feel a little paranoid occasionally that family might have found its way here though I have not seen anything to indicate that so far. Otherwise I am more than happy to share
I hope at least you feel more accepted here x
nexus9 said:I do feel slightly uncomfortable
Then don't share. There is no law insisting that you must. Just because I ask a question does not necessarily mean I am entitled to any kind of answer. Sometimes, just thinking about a rhetorical question can prove helpful.
For the funeral yes. I am mainly self employed and alas there the show must go on. I am really fed up with my colleagues at the school where I have had part time work though. No one talks to me. One saw a post of mine on media....completely ignored me at work. No great loss if I lose them next year, though with Brexit now, everything is forfeit again. Why did they do this to us. I am still so angry.
Are you able to take a couple of days out.. you’re quite entitled to it x
There is a cousin who has been supportive. She will be at the funeral. Things are winding down now though there are new students. The last few weeks have been exhausting, I am desperate for a holiday, a break.
Take each stage as it comes and try not to snowball everything ... do you have support?...
remember to breathe and make moments to recentre x
Dad's Wishes were certainly clear. After he went there was to be lifelong care for mother, then everything is to be shared between us equally. A lot of things were used to cover Mum's care expenses.
There will be one or two cousins there and other relatives.
They might be ok. There was a row last summer over information I had shared with my brother's older daughter, who are estranged.
I do feel slightly uncomfortable shark.g sell this, as one of my relatives has a son who is diagnosed and she way be posting here!