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Raven

Hi,

I was wondering if anyone had some advice for this situation:

I have AS, I work with the public in a fast paced environment. A few weeks ago, something bad happened and I got investigated for what was a genuine mistake. Since then, nothing serious has come of it. However, I have made several mistakes, some quite small and others a little bigger. My superior thinks I may be trying too hard to make up for my past mistake. I think she is right. I have lost a bit of confidence and I have been trying to make sure I am doing the right thing, which isn't always.

Has anyone else been stuck with these problems? And does anyone have any good advice about being able to deal and move on? I don't usually make these types of mistakes and I am worried that I've stuck myself in a rut. I've been told just to draw a line and keep going. Something seems to be blocking, otherwise I'm simply having a run of bad luck, but I don't think that is likely.

Thank you for any advice that can be offered.

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  • I agree with minime's advice. You do have to try to "put a line under things" and take a positive perspective.

    However no way is this easy to do. I've had difficulties in the workplace because there may be some aspects of a task it just doesn't occur to me to do, so I do everything right except mysteriously there are little voids that maybe are absent mindedness or maybe AS. 

    And I do seem to have to go over and over the ground in my head, especially when criticised. In some ways this analysis is productive, but not if it gets in the way of carrying on with the job. So you need to find a way of "drawing a line under things" - closing up the past and moving forwards.

    The wider NT population seems able to get over such incidents, which is great for them, but also makes me wonder about the morality of this, and whether this is why some people continue to underperform. But its the way NTs function - perhaps to make things keep moving they need to have this inbuilt "over and done with" mechanism. Its why the world never seems to learn by mistakes.

    So while reiterating Minime's advice I appreciate that it is hard advice to take, but worthwhile advice if you can find a way to do it.

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  • I agree with minime's advice. You do have to try to "put a line under things" and take a positive perspective.

    However no way is this easy to do. I've had difficulties in the workplace because there may be some aspects of a task it just doesn't occur to me to do, so I do everything right except mysteriously there are little voids that maybe are absent mindedness or maybe AS. 

    And I do seem to have to go over and over the ground in my head, especially when criticised. In some ways this analysis is productive, but not if it gets in the way of carrying on with the job. So you need to find a way of "drawing a line under things" - closing up the past and moving forwards.

    The wider NT population seems able to get over such incidents, which is great for them, but also makes me wonder about the morality of this, and whether this is why some people continue to underperform. But its the way NTs function - perhaps to make things keep moving they need to have this inbuilt "over and done with" mechanism. Its why the world never seems to learn by mistakes.

    So while reiterating Minime's advice I appreciate that it is hard advice to take, but worthwhile advice if you can find a way to do it.

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