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Mental illness does not exist

AnneMargaret

One of my older brothers does not believe in mental illnesses or doctors. Today he has had a go at me swearing shouting and doing "mental" actions towards me. All because i asked his wife about something she didn't like and she went snitching so to speak. I didn't realise i had said anything offensive. But i have been sobbing and now have thoughts of self harm again. I know that won't solve anything but i just feel so low. I expect i won't hear or see him for weeks now. He needs to accept my problems. I'm sick of discrimination.

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  • Hi,

    I am sorry to hear things are bad; before my diagnosis with AS, I was diagnosed at 17 with depression and anxiety. My parents found it very difficult to accept; there is alot of stigma surrounding mental illnesses. As far as most people are concerned, it doesn't exist if you can't see it. Even when I self-harmed, it wasn't clear to them and it didn't help. They just got scared because they couldn't figure out what had happened to their little girl. My brother also got really angry because apparently I had upset my cousin. I told him to keep his nose out of it. It is very easy to get upset and angry with our families when it seems like they don't understand us.

    If you'll pardon me without really knowing the full situation, it seems from what you have said that your brother may have the same problem my parents did and still do; it seems to be a case of uneducated assumptions. I would agree with the above comments; if there is someone who is in your family or a close friend and they know what is going on, then they  could possibly interject and talk to your brother on your behalf. Getting reading materials, websites and case studies for him may also help. People with no experience of this and wool over their eyes will never understand fully what it is like; but if any of this can provide any sort of empathy and education, it will be worth it.

    Please don't do anything to hurt yourself, if you need to talk just log on here and I'll reply. Good luck with this situation, if you need anything just write.

    xx

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  • Hi,

    I am sorry to hear things are bad; before my diagnosis with AS, I was diagnosed at 17 with depression and anxiety. My parents found it very difficult to accept; there is alot of stigma surrounding mental illnesses. As far as most people are concerned, it doesn't exist if you can't see it. Even when I self-harmed, it wasn't clear to them and it didn't help. They just got scared because they couldn't figure out what had happened to their little girl. My brother also got really angry because apparently I had upset my cousin. I told him to keep his nose out of it. It is very easy to get upset and angry with our families when it seems like they don't understand us.

    If you'll pardon me without really knowing the full situation, it seems from what you have said that your brother may have the same problem my parents did and still do; it seems to be a case of uneducated assumptions. I would agree with the above comments; if there is someone who is in your family or a close friend and they know what is going on, then they  could possibly interject and talk to your brother on your behalf. Getting reading materials, websites and case studies for him may also help. People with no experience of this and wool over their eyes will never understand fully what it is like; but if any of this can provide any sort of empathy and education, it will be worth it.

    Please don't do anything to hurt yourself, if you need to talk just log on here and I'll reply. Good luck with this situation, if you need anything just write.

    xx

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