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I cant cope anymore

pokemonmaster

Hi my name is Korrine, i am 17 and i have aspergers syndrome and dyspraxia. 
I am currently in my first year of college and I am studying forensic science. It is hard for me to find and maintain relatioships. I have just been diagnosed with osteoarthritis, so i have had a lot of time off college, i have told my friends whats going on, and they dont believe me, they wont talk to me at all now no matter how hard i try. I also have oter problems going on and I have recently been put on a anti-depressant. 
I dont know what to do anymore, i cant cope.
Is there anyone that can help?

Korrine x 

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  • You should pursue the support you should get from your college. The quality of disability support and pastoral care varies unfortunately, but the only way to get change is to keep challenging colleges that fail in this.

    There might be issues whether you have money from disability support or other sources to pay for services. But that should not mean that you get told that as they think you are doing fine they don't need to do anything for you. That sounds bad, and unprofessional.

    Peer reactions where disability is concerned is something more difficult. They may well not be sympathetic. I have been quite astonished how unsupportive class groups can be towards someone with a disability, but this may arise from ignorance about the disability.

    However equally they probably have a limited tolerance level towards anyone "going on" about their disability, so do be wary of this.

    A parallel is the mature student phenomenon. Mature students who do well in relating to their peer groups are the ones who "muck in" and try to bridge the gap in age. Those that act their age and difference, or talk about when they were young, tend to get ignored. That reaction is understandable.

    While it might seem unfair, and unsympathetic, it ptrobably pays not to remind peers of your difference.

    I appreciate that sounds harsh in the context of the experiences of many people on the spectrum, but it does seem to be the practical reality.

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  • You should pursue the support you should get from your college. The quality of disability support and pastoral care varies unfortunately, but the only way to get change is to keep challenging colleges that fail in this.

    There might be issues whether you have money from disability support or other sources to pay for services. But that should not mean that you get told that as they think you are doing fine they don't need to do anything for you. That sounds bad, and unprofessional.

    Peer reactions where disability is concerned is something more difficult. They may well not be sympathetic. I have been quite astonished how unsupportive class groups can be towards someone with a disability, but this may arise from ignorance about the disability.

    However equally they probably have a limited tolerance level towards anyone "going on" about their disability, so do be wary of this.

    A parallel is the mature student phenomenon. Mature students who do well in relating to their peer groups are the ones who "muck in" and try to bridge the gap in age. Those that act their age and difference, or talk about when they were young, tend to get ignored. That reaction is understandable.

    While it might seem unfair, and unsympathetic, it ptrobably pays not to remind peers of your difference.

    I appreciate that sounds harsh in the context of the experiences of many people on the spectrum, but it does seem to be the practical reality.

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