I am really fed up at the moment I have always suffered since18 with depression which just getting so bad at the last week I don't want to get up or go out I have recently joined up to lonely no more website to try to get a date one of the main reasons I am depressed but when i send msgs no one reply also can't be bothered watching TV or usual activities I am very snappy at my mum not that we get on anyway I am so low also as i don't have anyone to talk to the days are so long I find myself sleeping alot or playing the same sad songs over and over I am on tablets but nothing helps
in my humble opinion as an older (41) female aspergian, focusing your attention and hopes on a relationship to fix everything is not a good idea.
Lots of people (neurotypicals as well) think that 'if only I had that....' (car, job, gf, bf, money...) then I would be happy. They either don't get that which they want (and continue to be unhappy) or they find that the thing they wanted doesn't actually make them happy.
I think that you are very unhappy and lonely and need to address that first. Get some advice from anywhere that offers it, find things to do that makes you happy and make you feel good about yourself.
The things I do to make myself happy include spending time with my dog. I always feel happier after a walk and it's easier to talk to other doggy people because you just talk about dogs (repetitive and scripted = easy for me). Also I do some voluntary work once a week which is interesting and is something in my life that I am good at!
in my humble opinion as an older (41) female aspergian, focusing your attention and hopes on a relationship to fix everything is not a good idea.
Lots of people (neurotypicals as well) think that 'if only I had that....' (car, job, gf, bf, money...) then I would be happy. They either don't get that which they want (and continue to be unhappy) or they find that the thing they wanted doesn't actually make them happy.
I think that you are very unhappy and lonely and need to address that first. Get some advice from anywhere that offers it, find things to do that makes you happy and make you feel good about yourself.
The things I do to make myself happy include spending time with my dog. I always feel happier after a walk and it's easier to talk to other doggy people because you just talk about dogs (repetitive and scripted = easy for me). Also I do some voluntary work once a week which is interesting and is something in my life that I am good at!
