I am really fed up at the moment I have always suffered since18 with depression which just getting so bad at the last week I don't want to get up or go out I have recently joined up to lonely no more website to try to get a date one of the main reasons I am depressed but when i send msgs no one reply also can't be bothered watching TV or usual activities I am very snappy at my mum not that we get on anyway I am so low also as i don't have anyone to talk to the days are so long I find myself sleeping alot or playing the same sad songs over and over I am on tablets but nothing helps
Hi Anne I do volunteer once a week with animals I have taken. What Lulu said and think maybe I shall go back the doctors I will let u know how it goes I am glad your sister came back whear in Australia she live. The nearest I ever get to it is watching home and away have you ever been. Out to see her I hope u are on hear soon again I. Enjoy chatting to someone who knows how it feels someone I can talk to I am feeling OK today not great but better than yesterday thanks tommorow I have 4 weeks to Oliver so best learn my lines. Hope we speak soon
David x
I appreciate you needed to think about what I said. I hope it didn't seem like I was trying to boss you.
It's good that you've had a good relationship in the past and I'm sure you can again.
I think you should speak to your doctor (or whoever) about getting to grips with your depression in the meantime and so that you'll be in a happy situation when you meet your next partner.
Volunteering or doing something new is a good thing to do too.
Dave, you could do what Lulu said about and try a voluntary job where you will meet people, maybe a nice young lady, and do you have a friend you could go cinema or a drink/meal with to take your mind off things and again possibly meet people? I get very lonely also, as i have never had a relationship so i can appreciate how you feel. How are you tonight? My sister arrived today from Australia. :)
I read what u say Lulu but I was in a very happy relationship a number of years ago until she decided no more I have lots of unhappiness at the moment just for one person to find me attractive would be nice I know money do sent make. People happy or cars but I have always believed that love is important I don't think it would solve all my troubles gosh don't know whear to start with that but just a partner to support me would help I still believe that in the meantime I would like some proper help which counciling really didn't help
in my humble opinion as an older (41) female aspergian, focusing your attention and hopes on a relationship to fix everything is not a good idea.
Lots of people (neurotypicals as well) think that 'if only I had that....' (car, job, gf, bf, money...) then I would be happy. They either don't get that which they want (and continue to be unhappy) or they find that the thing they wanted doesn't actually make them happy.
I think that you are very unhappy and lonely and need to address that first. Get some advice from anywhere that offers it, find things to do that makes you happy and make you feel good about yourself.
The things I do to make myself happy include spending time with my dog. I always feel happier after a walk and it's easier to talk to other doggy people because you just talk about dogs (repetitive and scripted = easy for me). Also I do some voluntary work once a week which is interesting and is something in my life that I am good at!
Hi Anne first how are u? No nothing triggers me off just have these days. When i feel really bad I have been to the doctors that in Liverpool. Whear I live not many quite places I do go to my room and listen to music. I know my mum loves me in her own weird way. Its just I wish we had a better relationship I am quite private quiet she is the opposite I don't think I can have. A relationship with my grand parents they are very old fashioned and don't even try to understand my. Aspergiese . Being in a relationship would make me happier. I don't have a specific type of person its just I been hurt so I get very nervous e thanks for your kind. Words Anne. Your always very good with advice
David
Hi Dave. You seem really low today. Has something triggered you? I can really appreciate what you're going through as i also live at home and have never been in a true relationship. Our families care for us in their own way and don't mean to be irritating i'm sure. You need time out for yourself. Do you have a peaceful park or somewhere that you could go to for a walk or feed the ducks and a coffee where you may get chatting to people? In the meantime continue to talk on here.
Hi I have just finished counsilling. Didn't seem to cure me i am usually up and down alot I have always wanted a girlfriend like normal boys my age 26 it seems impossible to find anyone when you have a difficulties. I also would love my own place but can't afford it my family irratate me espically, my grandparents who are stuck in a time warp and I am very tired all the time . I don't think its to much asking to be loved by a lady or for my family to leave me alone sometime
