Published on 12, July, 2020
How do you make a decision?
It seems like a simple question, but I have spent my entire life not knowing how.
If I am asked "what would you like to do today?" I always respond with "I don't mind."
This has caused people to get annoyed with me at times as they always seem to decide for me and I get frustrated at nott being able to make a choice.
It is like my brain becomes a fog of possibilities, both realistic and ridiculous, and I find it almost impossible to focus on any one of them.
It is especially difficult if I have to make a decision when I am on my own and have no one to bounce an idea off as I will over analyse to the point that I end up either doing nothing or making a poor decision because I have talked myself out of the sensible choice. Sometimes I am even aware that I might be making a mistake but carry on regardless, as it feels almost like a compulsion.
So, does anyone have any useful strategies to help them make decisions and to make the "what would you like to do?" question not feel like it has no answer.
grendalsbane said: If I am asked "what would you like to do today?" I always respond with "I don't mind." This has caused people to get annoyed with me at times as they always seem to decide for me and I get frustrated at nott being able to make a choice.
i can identify with that.....being given a choice always throws me as I am so used to the familiar routines and rituals that pass for the "safe and predictable" shackles that I have structured for myself.
i find that people need to give me more time..,I get caught caught out and flustered if I have to give a quick response...so...I would rather would ask at the start of the week, "what shall we do this weekend?" - then I have several days to contemplate and work through my options. Rather than panic, miss the opportunity, get people agitated and usually end up make the wrong choice.
so in answer....time.