What keeps you going? Limited friends and the day to day can be tiring..,.,,
What keeps you going, what makes you smile and gives you hope?, what makes you laugh and gives you the motivation to get out of bed in the morning?
Another silly thread of mine, but I've had a tough day...looking for inspiration guys....dig deep people..
Counting down the hours with you.....hamster bedding at the ready...
How long until the work is finished? ...and not daft at all...I am very protective of my space..and I get unnerved also to have any sanctuary that I have constructed breeched....
hang in there..
So true..
I am pleased with the maintenance going on but it is ruffling my feathers/bedding and having a stranger in the house and a male one at that ruffles even more. Can't think straight so just keep telling myself how delighted I am/will be. Daft.
Bloody mindedness is definitely an necessity...
if you ever had a small pet like a hamster when you were growing up....you'd know that if you moved or changed their bedding then they would spend the rest of the day putting said bedding back in order....
the average day is like that, sometimes....hamster bedding ruffled...panic.,..furiously putting in back in order....and then...REPEAT....lol
oktanol said:Somehow the things that keep me fighting aren't the things that keep me going, often quite the opposite... It's rather one of the silly Aspie traits I've got, to keep fighting when others have the capacity to decide to simply not care. If they care first but figure out it's pointless others can just decide to leave things alone, I keep fighting, no matter what, and then get punished for it. And if I'm forced not to fight or try to stop myself then I fight myself and that isn't pretty either, quite literally. Wished I wasn't like that, it's probably the biggest trouble maker that trait.
Woah....that resonated....hit the nail on the head there! ,, I particularly liked the distinction between what keeps you fighting and what keeps you going....
what has been eye opening being part of this community is that you also start to notice everyone else's biorythmns...their down days, up days.....times of the day when they are energised...or drained and bewildered....has any one else noticed that?
Somehow the things that keep me fighting aren't the things that keep me going, often quite the opposite... It's rather one of the silly Aspie traits I've got, to keep fighting when others have the capacity to decide to simply not care. If they care first but figure out it's pointless others can just decide to leave things alone, I keep fighting, no matter what, and then get punished for it. And if I'm forced not to fight or try to stop myself then I fight myself and that isn't pretty either, quite literally. Wished I wasn't like that, it's probably the biggest trouble maker that trait.
In a way to keep going is an Aspie trait too, I've got a lot of motivation coming from within, only for things I like, but there are plenty of those. Apparently this is quite common and I'd say it's one of the better things about Asperger's.
Still trying to figure out what gets me out of low patches, they don't have to be deep at all for me to fall in and be so overwhelmed that it seems impossible to ever climb out again, and then I react in ways that get me even deeper down. Think I rely too much on others there, and often when others try to be nice I find it difficult to accept it, that must be quite frustrating (for all involved including myself). Like someone wanted to give me a hug because I was very upset and I wanted nothing more than a hug, so I shouted at her to leave me alone... Guess being able to help someone else in some way is one of the few things that really help me quite reliably, maybe because I feel worthless when things aren't going well and seeing that someone did actually benefit from me helps to feel a bit better about myself.
Will keep reading a bit here, perhaps there's something I can give a try too - thanks for opening that thread and for all the answers!
Morning. No need to apologise. Sounds like you have a lot of bread and butter on your plate. Teaching and doing a Masters is a big thing to do ( my sister is doing the same working over this summer break to try to finish it) But it is a lot of work and you do need downtime too. Well done for the achievement so far. Hope you eating and getting enough rest and relaxation which we need to stop things becoming too much.
Big aspie appropriate hug Elie!
My faith community are not evangelical, so even talking about faith seems a disrespectful thing to do :-)
I've got this strange notion that there is purpose, reason and meaning regardless of how irrational and awful things are on a day to day basis. Have had less than a handful of profound spiritual moments in my 45 year journey, but for me that ultimately keeps me going.
That and sheer bloody mindedness.
On the bus home from day 1 of 2 of a course on parenting with autism. We as expected are the only parents dealing with a late diagnosis on the course, but significantly we've got a woman from a specialist employment agency on the course. I can imagine in two years time arranging for SD16 to meet with her to look at options.
Some eye opening moments around some strategies for setting healthy boundaries and house rules for both our ASD and ADHD SDs. I've been wrestling for months over SD20 not completing tasks, so when she comes back she gets overwhelmed. We were given an idea of traffic lights as amber:"still stuff to do but almost done" and red: task done.
It might help her see the benefits of working beyond amber to get ready for the next green light.
Totally agree.. had a super challenging day but had an email today from an author I had cited in my masters dissertation who was very supportive...,but gave a positive uplift to the boggy mire surrounding that piece of good news...
twas good news non the less....even thought ''twas just the butter" of a *** sandwich....lol
I've had a lot of tough days so tried to find an answer to your question for myself. Tough days are tough no doubt about it. But usually there is something in the day to notice. One person I know had a tin and each time she had a good experience or enjoyed something or whatever was special she wrote it on a piece of paper and put it in the tin . Then on New Year's Day she'd read them to herself but you could read them on a bad day instead. Hope tomorrow is a better day for you .
Hi Misfit...an honest and profound answer, as always. You superstar!!!
My mum knew that I find life difficult and even at my lowest points she kept prompting me. She said think of 3 good things each day. It's surprising that even doing that can just keep me going. It can be anything, anything at all from a squeak from my guinea pig , a friendly text or message, a butterfly dancing on the butterfly bush, something funny on the radio, mending something that's been waiting or achievement from the to do list.. or a bit more of your hobby of the moment.. whatever it is find 3 things. The radio 4 xtra or radio comedy or plays or audiobooks /podcasts are something I rely on. Finding a comedian that you really enjoy who you know will make you laugh .. we're all different so our choices will be. Researching a topic or topics or looking at ideas and websites on your interest like Pinterest or etsy or whatever is your choice. If energy getting out to the fields , going for a drive to get out and finding something interesting or amazing to look at. They're all little every day doable things but these things do help me. On a really bad day I might watch films all day. Anyway these are just a few things I'll probably think of others. I go to sleep listening to something too, sometimes it's gardeners question time or Scotland outdoors, or something like gloomsbury and sometimes it's YouTube sound of a running stream it makes me keep concentrating on that ( doesn't always work but quite often) .
