Help! Are there any women in this Community with ASD

I'm going for the top 'reply' button this time in the hope that this interjection won't disappear in the thread like the last one did.  I have a new book and I think it is important people!

AUTISM AND ASPERGER SYNDROME IN ADULTS by Dr Luke Beardon.  I bought it because it was published this year, so many of the books seem to be outdated to me, this seemed to have a fresh perspective, it arrived today and I've read nearly a third, it's quietly brilliant I think.

If we could all read it and encourage everyone else to read it we might start a revolution, it's really genderless too, in a good way.  I may just be over excited by this thread being such a roaring success, but I really think the ideas in this book could help us all so much.

Isn't it strange that a thread full of pain, confusion and despair can be generating so much optimism, thank you for being brave enough to start it Elephant, even if it has got quite hard to follow!  If all my emotions and reactions weren't so suppressed I might be skipping round the garden right now. 

I'm so sorry for those of you with resistant husbands or partners, I hope you make progress and I think the book could help them too, maybe there's an audio version, or you could read it to him?  He's going to have to engage with the idea if you are going to move forward together, it isn't something that will go away and we have all hit the wall for a reason. We can't keep up the pretence any more, either we find new paths forward or we will be broken people which will serve no one and be a waste of what are obviously some splendid people here, different but splendid.

Spotty!!  Wondered where you disappeared to....the book sounds good (pay day Monday!.....it's now on the list!).

it's has been great to have so many join in with this thread...so many hidden women coming out of the woodwork..or book!

try and skip Spotty....or what ever feels right for a tortoise!  Did you see the comments above about addressing the emotional side of things....how do you interpret that....or Dr Beardon...?

glad you're back!

I didn't go away!  If you go to just above oktanol's post and keep hitting 'load more' that's where my last effort is buried, I find the reply buttons all over the place very confusing but I guess we'll get the hang of it eventually.  The thread is a victim of it's own success.  Honestly the book is a breath of fresh air and talks in terms that we are.

I'm mulling over the emotional aspect and will be back to that, head still spinning but slightly skipping.

Just tired! Will contribute more tomorrow. Needed to "switch off" for the evening. Thank  you

We are doing ok...shout out to the other ASDs out there...

things are a struggle, people, life etc...but we're hanging in there, I hope 

Not in the slightest ;-)

If we can't do some spouting and off topic here, where can we? You've been insightful and interesting. It's my first time posting too and I think we are doing ok!

Now I'm worrying that my comment sounds really patronising

Totally makes sense the UK perspective and culture is very different from America...there are synergies there but not always enough to identify with

Dear Misfit61... you have been brilliant..I've been sat at home also worrying about how posts may be perceived, how words and sentiments might be misinterpreted etc...

don't self critical..,you have been brilliant today .., 

you're not intense, you are very perceptive and empathic and your contributions welcome....all the women who have joined us today have been brave enough to venture from their safe houses and spaces...even Spotty tortoise has come out of hibernation so please don't been disheaterend.

Btw..,tell us the story of misfit1 - misfit60 tomorrow...

take care girl, you are lovely 

i have found the conversation interesting and it's been good to hear others with similar situations. I'm never sure if I'm too intense or off topic so sorry if that was me. But not bad for a first attempt at joining in and posting. I spend a lot of time by myself and we're often the worst for verbal spouting. Lots of stuff to think about So Elephant intheroom hope you are feeling encouraged by the responses to your thread I hope you will let us know how you get on 

Yes! Which why I'm being a bit picky now, the musings of an aspie blog is much more informative than the book it turns out and also so much of it is American and their culture has differences which were making me seek a less confident uk voice, if that makes sense.  No point in denying the hunger though.

Being cynical...do you think publishers have realised that we are such a growing and hungry demographic?

I know what you mean. Meat on the bones is a good analogy.....we are hungry women!

It's fine, if people are really interested it's all findable.  I have a feeling that it's the intensity that may be the attraction to many.  Some meat on the bones, but I know what you mean.

Poor tortoise...sorry that we missed your replies :(...will get you out of your load more box...worried that some of the conversation might be too intense/not relevant.....hoping for an inclusive experience for everyone...

Poor tortoise...sorry that we missed your replies :(...will get you out of your load more box...worried that some of the conversation might be too intense/not relevant.....hoping for an inclusive experience for everyone...

Just tired! Will contribute more tomorrow. Needed to "switch off" for the evening. Thank  you

We are doing ok...shout out to the other ASDs out there...

things are a struggle, people, life etc...but we're hanging in there, I hope 

Not in the slightest ;-)

If we can't do some spouting and off topic here, where can we? You've been insightful and interesting. It's my first time posting too and I think we are doing ok!

Now I'm worrying that my comment sounds really patronising

Totally makes sense the UK perspective and culture is very different from America...there are synergies there but not always enough to identify with

Dear Misfit61... you have been brilliant..I've been sat at home also worrying about how posts may be perceived, how words and sentiments might be misinterpreted etc...

don't self critical..,you have been brilliant today .., 

you're not intense, you are very perceptive and empathic and your contributions welcome....all the women who have joined us today have been brave enough to venture from their safe houses and spaces...even Spotty tortoise has come out of hibernation so please don't been disheaterend.

Btw..,tell us the story of misfit1 - misfit60 tomorrow...

take care girl, you are lovely 

i have found the conversation interesting and it's been good to hear others with similar situations. I'm never sure if I'm too intense or off topic so sorry if that was me. But not bad for a first attempt at joining in and posting. I spend a lot of time by myself and we're often the worst for verbal spouting. Lots of stuff to think about So Elephant intheroom hope you are feeling encouraged by the responses to your thread I hope you will let us know how you get on 

Yes! Which why I'm being a bit picky now, the musings of an aspie blog is much more informative than the book it turns out and also so much of it is American and their culture has differences which were making me seek a less confident uk voice, if that makes sense.  No point in denying the hunger though.

Being cynical...do you think publishers have realised that we are such a growing and hungry demographic?

I know what you mean. Meat on the bones is a good analogy.....we are hungry women!

It's fine, if people are really interested it's all findable.  I have a feeling that it's the intensity that may be the attraction to many.  Some meat on the bones, but I know what you mean.