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Any Simmers out there?

Lotus

I've really got into playing the Sims game over the past few months on Xbox and have just bought a gaming PC and the PC version of the game. I was so excited to see how much better it was than the Xbox version and made the mistake of talking to two of my work colleagues who I get on with quite well about it. Reactions were "everyone to their own" (my translation: "you're weird") and an amused " how old are you?" (My translation: "you're a bit childish, aren't you?) I got flustered and embarrassed and couldn't think of a witty reply.

But afterwards I thought; yeah, I'm a 56 year old woman, so what? I make an effort to take an interest in my female colleagues' chat about their kids & grandchildren and a male colleague's obsession with football. I don't say to the women " I'm not interested in kids actually, but everyone to their own". I don't ask the football fanatic why he hasn't grown out of playing with balls!

So, are there any Sims players out there? Or female gamers? Do you have anyone you can share your interest with or do people around you just think you're weird?

  • Hi there i also like to play on The sims, i have a collection of the games for Xbox 360. I do not play on them much now because I'm currently playing Tomb Raider On PS4, I often tell my family about the games that i'm playing and i get quite fixated on telling them about the gameplay, i doubt they really care. Hope to hear back from you soon,  Best Wishes  Skel1ingt0n 

  • in reply to oktanol

    Thanks Oktanol for your reassurance. I usually find common interests to talk about such as clothes, music etc and my colleagues don't usually annoy me - it's just that I have a few interests I can't really share at work as nobody else is interested, and I just wanted to get things off my chest as it's difficult to keep quiet when I'm interested in something new. I'll just have to remember to keep it to my Aspie friends only!

  • Hi there, I'm the weirdo in our office because I'm not interested in computer games! Maybe an office full of PhDs isn't the most representative one, but there are two women, both Chinese and not the tiniest bit autistic as far as I can tell and both like computer games, one is mildly obsessed, I'd say (although a proper gamer probably wouldn't agree). The other two are guys, again, one spending quite a lot of time gaming, the other one only occasionally. Nobody thinks either of them is weird. They don't really talk about it though, maybe that's the little difference. But don't worry abut your "mistake", they won't even remember unless someone else comes and starts talking about that game (or another one because they will not remember which game you said you liked).

    Think the constant talking about children or grandchildren, especially their enormous achievements and the own perfect parenting, is quite annoying to many NTs as well, particularly those that don't have kids or whose kids aren't that high-achieving or who feel they are not as brilliant a parent as everyone else seems to be, in fact in can be really hurtful and upsetting. Guess people who do this will never understand that their favourite topic is no more valid than other people's topics, the best is probably to find someone who has something in common with you in some way to chat with (even if it is simply not having kids, then at least they won't be obsessed with this topic). Bringing every chat back to ones favourite topic is seen as a sign of autism, but somehow it would mean that a large proportion of women are autistic, it's just that society has somehow decided that talking about kids is what women should be doing, maybe a bit of gardening, cooking, knitting... when you are older. Hope you can find someone who doesn't have such a strong favourite topic - it may need a bit of searching because in that surrounding you won't hear them talk much about what they are interested in...