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Autism and humour

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I've just watched some episodes of Elementary (season 4) where Sherlock is dating an autistic woman (who describes herself as neuro-atypical). His character's behaviour also suggests he is on the spectrum.

It suddenly hit me how serious they both are - neither seem capable of sharing a joke ( with each other or with other friends/ colleagues) and they never laugh.

My partner and I are both "neuro-atypical" and we share a well developed sense of humour. Over the years, I have cried a lot, been worried a lot, but have laughed a lot too.

I can't think of one autistic character on TV, in movies etc that has been portrayed as having a sense of humour. Surely it's not that uncommon?

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  • NAS9095 said:

    I am in a long term relationship (16 years now). I am undiagnosed but apparently clearly ND (recent realisation - 3 years - and now seeking diagnosis) and my partner is supposedly NT - I think otherwise due to mental health issues, that he has had since childhood (but that's an entirely different issue). He is so understanding and willing to adapt to make my life easier - always has been. Problem is I get so wrapped up in my own issues I do forget about his and some of the problems I may be causing him. When I eventually realise that he has gone out of his way to sort things for me in the background I feel really bad and spiral downwards emotionally - this isn't good for either of us. I am loving in my own way but some people on the outside don't see this (I'm not very affectionate in public - learnt behaviour growing up gay in a military town and catholic family) and think that the whole relationship is very one sided.

    I'm also in a long-term (27 years) gay relationship and feel - as does my partner - that the relationship is very one-sided.  Not only am I not affectionate in public, I'm not even affectionate in private!  I think this can only be attributed to my Asperger's (diagnosed last year), as even in the 1980s I was completely "out" and comfortable with myself as a gay man.  It's also related to the fact that my parents (though non-religious) were very undemonstrative with each other, especially my mother who I now believe was autistic too.

    My partner was very supportive during the assessment process, but has since become somewhat resentful that he is expected to make all (or most of) the adjustments - and that there is little or no support for him, though we did attend several advice sessions together.  There is of course a lack of specific support for same-sex partners, just as there is no specific support in the UK for LGB Aspies.

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  • NAS9095 said:

    I am in a long term relationship (16 years now). I am undiagnosed but apparently clearly ND (recent realisation - 3 years - and now seeking diagnosis) and my partner is supposedly NT - I think otherwise due to mental health issues, that he has had since childhood (but that's an entirely different issue). He is so understanding and willing to adapt to make my life easier - always has been. Problem is I get so wrapped up in my own issues I do forget about his and some of the problems I may be causing him. When I eventually realise that he has gone out of his way to sort things for me in the background I feel really bad and spiral downwards emotionally - this isn't good for either of us. I am loving in my own way but some people on the outside don't see this (I'm not very affectionate in public - learnt behaviour growing up gay in a military town and catholic family) and think that the whole relationship is very one sided.

    I'm also in a long-term (27 years) gay relationship and feel - as does my partner - that the relationship is very one-sided.  Not only am I not affectionate in public, I'm not even affectionate in private!  I think this can only be attributed to my Asperger's (diagnosed last year), as even in the 1980s I was completely "out" and comfortable with myself as a gay man.  It's also related to the fact that my parents (though non-religious) were very undemonstrative with each other, especially my mother who I now believe was autistic too.

    My partner was very supportive during the assessment process, but has since become somewhat resentful that he is expected to make all (or most of) the adjustments - and that there is little or no support for him, though we did attend several advice sessions together.  There is of course a lack of specific support for same-sex partners, just as there is no specific support in the UK for LGB Aspies.

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