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Im destroying my relationship

gingy

Hello,

Im new here and a bit unsure of where to start but I mainly came looking for help becasue recently I have been creating a load of problems in my relationship.

I have been with my partner for over a year and recently I have been destroying the relationship by being to controling. I dont realize when Im doing it how irrational I am being but afterwards I am embarassed by my behaviour. I do things like call to many times, repeatedly call until I receive an answer, I have been crying a lot lately becasue I am so frustrated with not being able to express myself in a way that my partner can understand or recognize what I need. When my partner does know what I need sometimes when it isn't given to me I have what if I was 5 would be considered a tempertantrum or crying fit.

I don't know why I act this way or how to change things. I love my partner and don't want to be doing this anymore, I want to be in a relationship where I can feel comfortable and not always on edge, not worry that im going to mess it up, how I am acting is probably boarder line abusive and I need to find a solution.

does anyone know of any good resources for aspi adults and relationships?

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  • Hi Gingy,

    I haven't been diagnosed yet, so feel a bit of a fraud just now posting on this forum.  If you don't mind that then I can tell you that a book that I found helpful is "Aspergers in Love: Couple Relationships and Family Affairs" by Maxine C. Aston.  This has propbably been mentioned elsewhere, but I know that I have found it hard to navigate my way through masses of information before I find what I'm looking for.

    My situation is, I think, a bit different.  I don't emotionally connect with anybody and although I desperately want to be in a relationship, I'm not sure this is a possibility.  If I was in your situation I know I would do anything to work out any problems, so I hope you have good luck 

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  • Hi Gingy,

    I haven't been diagnosed yet, so feel a bit of a fraud just now posting on this forum.  If you don't mind that then I can tell you that a book that I found helpful is "Aspergers in Love: Couple Relationships and Family Affairs" by Maxine C. Aston.  This has propbably been mentioned elsewhere, but I know that I have found it hard to navigate my way through masses of information before I find what I'm looking for.

    My situation is, I think, a bit different.  I don't emotionally connect with anybody and although I desperately want to be in a relationship, I'm not sure this is a possibility.  If I was in your situation I know I would do anything to work out any problems, so I hope you have good luck 

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