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fairly new relationship

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hi 

im in a fairly new and loving relationship with a long term friend who has recently been diagnosed with AS. the problem is that i have a daughter (19 months) to my last partner  and this adds a lot of stress to the relationship we get very little time together (alone) and he refers to her as my 'kid' and rairly uses her name, he has no understanding of why this hurts me. he will also prefer to stay at his house when i have my daughter and not see me at all as he feels i spend to much time with her. i just dont know how to put all this to him without him getting agitated he feels i just dont understand where he is coming from. please help

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  • You need to make it clear to him that unless he tries to interact or bond with your child, theres next to no chance of your relationship getting anywhere. And if hes upset about the amount of time you spend with your daughter, attempt to explain: shes your daughter. And shes 19 months old. I've got two half brothers about that age and they need 24/7 supervision or they'll be finding ways of making chairs fall on them etc.

    Sorry if this sounds pretty harsh but your daughter should always come first. Shes small, helpless, and needs more time and guidance from you than your boyfriend does.

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  • You need to make it clear to him that unless he tries to interact or bond with your child, theres next to no chance of your relationship getting anywhere. And if hes upset about the amount of time you spend with your daughter, attempt to explain: shes your daughter. And shes 19 months old. I've got two half brothers about that age and they need 24/7 supervision or they'll be finding ways of making chairs fall on them etc.

    Sorry if this sounds pretty harsh but your daughter should always come first. Shes small, helpless, and needs more time and guidance from you than your boyfriend does.

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