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Charity shops with uncharitable managers

DeeEll

With regret, I no longer have a volunteering job, or any job at all. This is because recently, I was unfairly dismissed by two insensitive managers at two different establishments. I say unfairly, because on both occasions I was just behaving like I normally do as an autistic, and yet both these charity shops (Oxfam and Cancer Research UK) are used to having volunteers on the spectrum. I am a veteran volunteer, and when I started out doing this, I very rarely had this kind of ill treatment or prejudice. If i had a meltdown, or a.semblance of one, they would just ask 'are you ok?' rather than say 'behave yourself and stop acting like a child!' I am just being who I am - they are the ones with the problem.

For me, charity work is harder to find now than ever. With my wealth of experience, I was sure I would have a good chance of getting a new job at a new charity, but they dont seem to give a monkey about me any more. They only seem interested in neurotypical "normal" people, in the belief that they are more reliable and generally more ABLE.

I'm tired of this feeling of not having a purpose. Volunteering has given me a purpose and a chance to contribute to society, but now all I see are doors slamming in my face. I may never get out of this.

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  • Sorry to vent but I've had problems with co-workers stealing too. The problem is that co-workers are allowed access to too much info about you. They know who the company values most & who is most at risk. The ethically challenged out there abuse that.

    I've never stolen anything ever. At my first job a lot of stealing went on by bitter management. With new managers there was a new stock inventory done. The only problem is they were very stupid. Customers literally stole crates the moment their backs were turned. Leading the managers to become resentful because they assumed it was other staff. So they decided they'd steal too.
    Then at sainsburys at the end of my shift by the third month, all of a sudden there were a lot of stop & search checks. Where they stood at the top of staff stairs & asked everyone to turn out pockets. I had none & was asked to turn up my collar. It just seemed like the target was me, even though it was presented as a normal check. Soon after my till was also regularly checked before I went off duty. They never said anything, but I know this didn't happen to other staff. I left a few months later, as I hated the work. They tried to offer me an office job instead.
    Stealing also happened during a forced placement at primark. Colleagues would come up to me & imply they'd stolen money by flashing wedges of cash from their pockets (while on the shop floor). As an aspie I think our body language can come across as a bit shifty. I was continually singled out & a manager even came down, taking me off a till in front of a dozen other cashiers. He started counting my till in front of them all. At the end he shook his head & loudly said it was down money. It was humiliating. I felt he or the woman on the till before me had stolen. 

    I was summoned to the accounting office & told money was always going missing from my till. Half a dozen till copy roles were sat on the desk in front of me. With the implication it showed dodgy activity, such as the till being opened. Which was actually the supervisor swapping change, but I naively assumed they knew. They even used my fathers recent death, which I'd never told anyone about. Implying that was a motive. I know there was only one time my till was missing money. But that was due to giving too much change to a customer, who brought it back before the till was counted.

    I was put on the shop floor for the rest of the day. Lots of staff came up to me & said are you being sacked. What are you going to do. Will you stick it to them & quit first. I couldn't quit, due to benefit rules. But obviously I was let go a few weeks later when the trial period ended. I hated every second there, so they did me a favour really.

    I hope you get good news from MIND soon.
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  • Sorry to vent but I've had problems with co-workers stealing too. The problem is that co-workers are allowed access to too much info about you. They know who the company values most & who is most at risk. The ethically challenged out there abuse that.

    I've never stolen anything ever. At my first job a lot of stealing went on by bitter management. With new managers there was a new stock inventory done. The only problem is they were very stupid. Customers literally stole crates the moment their backs were turned. Leading the managers to become resentful because they assumed it was other staff. So they decided they'd steal too.
    Then at sainsburys at the end of my shift by the third month, all of a sudden there were a lot of stop & search checks. Where they stood at the top of staff stairs & asked everyone to turn out pockets. I had none & was asked to turn up my collar. It just seemed like the target was me, even though it was presented as a normal check. Soon after my till was also regularly checked before I went off duty. They never said anything, but I know this didn't happen to other staff. I left a few months later, as I hated the work. They tried to offer me an office job instead.
    Stealing also happened during a forced placement at primark. Colleagues would come up to me & imply they'd stolen money by flashing wedges of cash from their pockets (while on the shop floor). As an aspie I think our body language can come across as a bit shifty. I was continually singled out & a manager even came down, taking me off a till in front of a dozen other cashiers. He started counting my till in front of them all. At the end he shook his head & loudly said it was down money. It was humiliating. I felt he or the woman on the till before me had stolen. 

    I was summoned to the accounting office & told money was always going missing from my till. Half a dozen till copy roles were sat on the desk in front of me. With the implication it showed dodgy activity, such as the till being opened. Which was actually the supervisor swapping change, but I naively assumed they knew. They even used my fathers recent death, which I'd never told anyone about. Implying that was a motive. I know there was only one time my till was missing money. But that was due to giving too much change to a customer, who brought it back before the till was counted.

    I was put on the shop floor for the rest of the day. Lots of staff came up to me & said are you being sacked. What are you going to do. Will you stick it to them & quit first. I couldn't quit, due to benefit rules. But obviously I was let go a few weeks later when the trial period ended. I hated every second there, so they did me a favour really.

    I hope you get good news from MIND soon.
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