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Friendships with those with ASD (how to be helpful)

Complicatedcabbage

ok so I really like a guy who has ASD 

whats the problem I hear you say?! 

I fear I am the cause of a lot of his stress and anxiety! Just by being me! 

I like him for him. He's really lovely! I just don't want to be the cause of his stress. I want to be helpful! i think he knows I like him. But I don't think that's reciprocated which is sad but it is what it is! 

I just want him to be happy and at ease when we work together! 

Can you give me some ideas of how to be more understanding, helpful and just less of a cause of his anxiety! I figure a better understanding will help more than trying to change me! 

But it any pointers to help me be a better friend at least?

what should/could I do to help him feel easy and happier! 

Thanks 

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  • Thanks Stan 

    yes please any help you can give me will be greatly received 

    where is the best place to start? I'm at a loss it's a bit confusing! I thouroghly understand there won't be a quick fix solution and like with any friendship there will be ups and downs 

    I just want there to be more ups than downs and want to make sure he is comfortable with me. 

    we have fun! Sometimes when we talk (one on one) he will tell me a lot of personal stuff especially about his family. Which is great he wants to share a lot of guys don't! But every so often he starts to rock! I believe this is called a 'stim' 

    when he stims should I be worried?! is it an anxiety thing? Should I change the topic? Or let him work through it? 

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  • Thanks Stan 

    yes please any help you can give me will be greatly received 

    where is the best place to start? I'm at a loss it's a bit confusing! I thouroghly understand there won't be a quick fix solution and like with any friendship there will be ups and downs 

    I just want there to be more ups than downs and want to make sure he is comfortable with me. 

    we have fun! Sometimes when we talk (one on one) he will tell me a lot of personal stuff especially about his family. Which is great he wants to share a lot of guys don't! But every so often he starts to rock! I believe this is called a 'stim' 

    when he stims should I be worried?! is it an anxiety thing? Should I change the topic? Or let him work through it? 

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