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Friendships with those with ASD (how to be helpful)

Complicatedcabbage

ok so I really like a guy who has ASD 

whats the problem I hear you say?! 

I fear I am the cause of a lot of his stress and anxiety! Just by being me! 

I like him for him. He's really lovely! I just don't want to be the cause of his stress. I want to be helpful! i think he knows I like him. But I don't think that's reciprocated which is sad but it is what it is! 

I just want him to be happy and at ease when we work together! 

Can you give me some ideas of how to be more understanding, helpful and just less of a cause of his anxiety! I figure a better understanding will help more than trying to change me! 

But it any pointers to help me be a better friend at least?

what should/could I do to help him feel easy and happier! 

Thanks 

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  • Hi complicatedcabbage,

    I dont think think you are causing him any anxiety. People with Autism struggle with emotions and how they think people think of them. I think the best thing you can do is let him be him in his own way and let him approach you. Be straight with him and let him know you like him but tell him if that is not what he wants or understands then you will respect that and that you will always be his freind. More importantly, you will always be there for him no matter what. Hes got a good person by his side and its good to see.

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  • Hi complicatedcabbage,

    I dont think think you are causing him any anxiety. People with Autism struggle with emotions and how they think people think of them. I think the best thing you can do is let him be him in his own way and let him approach you. Be straight with him and let him know you like him but tell him if that is not what he wants or understands then you will respect that and that you will always be his freind. More importantly, you will always be there for him no matter what. Hes got a good person by his side and its good to see.

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