People Turning Up Unannounced

Hello everyone. I would like to ask if anyone else is bothered by people turning up unannounced? It is just one of my pet peeves. I know logically that other people don't have a problem with it, but it just really annoys me when people don't phone before saying they are going to come over, they always seem to arrive close to a meal time (I don't like eating in front of other people), so I have to put off my meal, and they seem to stay for hours, irrespective of whether I or my family may have something they want to do.

I find it incredibly difficult to deal with situations like this, and it causes me a great deal of stress, but I am sure I just come across as rude to some people when I don't particularly want to interrupt with them when they have arrived without telling me or my parents that they were going to come.

I know people on the spectrum can be difficult for people who are not on the spectrum to deal with, but I wish people would take my needs into consideration, sometimes.

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  • Thank you for your post Telstar. Unfortunately, other than my parents (and they don't make much of an effort to take my needs into account, either), no one knows that I have an ASC, and I have a feeling I would be ridiculed if I did reveal it to everyone. I wish I could ask everyone who comes here to let me know they are coming, but, to the vast majority of people, chance encounters and turning up whenever you feel like it seems perfectly normal. To me, it really messes with my mind and my mood.

    I can relate to how sudden changes make you depressed, because it makes me feel the same way. I just wish that neurotypical people could see things from the point of view of others. I don't know if others would agree with me, but many neurotypical people I know seem to be very egocentric. They never seem to think how their actions affect other people, whereas, I am always considering my actions toward others so I can appear "normal" to them.

    It's nice to know that other people see things the way I do.

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  • Thank you for your post Telstar. Unfortunately, other than my parents (and they don't make much of an effort to take my needs into account, either), no one knows that I have an ASC, and I have a feeling I would be ridiculed if I did reveal it to everyone. I wish I could ask everyone who comes here to let me know they are coming, but, to the vast majority of people, chance encounters and turning up whenever you feel like it seems perfectly normal. To me, it really messes with my mind and my mood.

    I can relate to how sudden changes make you depressed, because it makes me feel the same way. I just wish that neurotypical people could see things from the point of view of others. I don't know if others would agree with me, but many neurotypical people I know seem to be very egocentric. They never seem to think how their actions affect other people, whereas, I am always considering my actions toward others so I can appear "normal" to them.

    It's nice to know that other people see things the way I do.

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