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Bullying at work

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I really don't know if I'm paranoid or I'm being bullied for real. My supervisor constantly puts a negative spin on anything I acheive at work. She mentioned my off putting personality during my monthly appraisal. One month she told me to step my game up and take charge more, the next month she accused me of being bossy. She constantly overloads me with more work than my colleagues, If I say anything she replies " well if you can't do it you're letting the team down".

I confided in her that I suspected I may have Aspergers (only because she was brow beating me about getting upset at work) I begged her not to take it further but she has now told my manager, Occupation Health and Human Resources. I'm worried sick now as I don't know how to deal with these meetings. Help...anyone?

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  • Thanks to everyone who has posted here with advice and thoughts. My biggest problem is that the bully in question is super nice to me in front of others,she is well liked ( it seems) and has been there for 14 years with lots of influence.

    I on the other hand an fairly new (15 months). She is my direct supervisor and everything comes to my word against hers.The remarks she makes are not on record and she manages to manipulate what I say. ie if she confronts me on a situation I am too flustered to make a reply she will write that I 'chose not to answer '. I get so anxious during these confrontational meetings that my brain freezes.

    She has stated to me privately that I am not well liked by colleagues and they often compplain about my manner, but admits I am good at my job in general, particularly my report writing and PC skills. It's making me very paranoid and withdrawn now. I feel that when anyone speaks to me they immediately run to her office to complain about me. This is making me in turn even more withdrawn and anxious about everything I say and do.

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  • Thanks to everyone who has posted here with advice and thoughts. My biggest problem is that the bully in question is super nice to me in front of others,she is well liked ( it seems) and has been there for 14 years with lots of influence.

    I on the other hand an fairly new (15 months). She is my direct supervisor and everything comes to my word against hers.The remarks she makes are not on record and she manages to manipulate what I say. ie if she confronts me on a situation I am too flustered to make a reply she will write that I 'chose not to answer '. I get so anxious during these confrontational meetings that my brain freezes.

    She has stated to me privately that I am not well liked by colleagues and they often compplain about my manner, but admits I am good at my job in general, particularly my report writing and PC skills. It's making me very paranoid and withdrawn now. I feel that when anyone speaks to me they immediately run to her office to complain about me. This is making me in turn even more withdrawn and anxious about everything I say and do.

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