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Bullying at work

shoekitten

I really don't know if I'm paranoid or I'm being bullied for real. My supervisor constantly puts a negative spin on anything I acheive at work. She mentioned my off putting personality during my monthly appraisal. One month she told me to step my game up and take charge more, the next month she accused me of being bossy. She constantly overloads me with more work than my colleagues, If I say anything she replies " well if you can't do it you're letting the team down".

I confided in her that I suspected I may have Aspergers (only because she was brow beating me about getting upset at work) I begged her not to take it further but she has now told my manager, Occupation Health and Human Resources. I'm worried sick now as I don't know how to deal with these meetings. Help...anyone?

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  • That's serious unprofessionalism now. She is playing on your fears.

    Have you a reliable witness, because I think that is in the region of harrassment and could be a police matter? She definately can't do that. A few of the other things are hard to unravel but that is harrassment.

    Keep a record.

    Remember if this person had anything genuine against you she could make a formal complaint to management. So instead she is trying to provoke you into doing something that incriminates you.

    Did you say somewhere back in one thread that this was a disability related organisation?

    The difficulty is proving she made those assertions. But nevertheless keep a record. She is relying on the fact you cannot prove she said that to you. If challenged she'll make out you misunderstood. 

    You have a legal right to representation. You can ask a colleague (if you can trust anyone in that dreadful place) a union rep or a lawyer to be present every time you meet your supervisor. You should insist on having support present when meeting her.

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  • That's serious unprofessionalism now. She is playing on your fears.

    Have you a reliable witness, because I think that is in the region of harrassment and could be a police matter? She definately can't do that. A few of the other things are hard to unravel but that is harrassment.

    Keep a record.

    Remember if this person had anything genuine against you she could make a formal complaint to management. So instead she is trying to provoke you into doing something that incriminates you.

    Did you say somewhere back in one thread that this was a disability related organisation?

    The difficulty is proving she made those assertions. But nevertheless keep a record. She is relying on the fact you cannot prove she said that to you. If challenged she'll make out you misunderstood. 

    You have a legal right to representation. You can ask a colleague (if you can trust anyone in that dreadful place) a union rep or a lawyer to be present every time you meet your supervisor. You should insist on having support present when meeting her.

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