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Bullying at work

shoekitten

I really don't know if I'm paranoid or I'm being bullied for real. My supervisor constantly puts a negative spin on anything I acheive at work. She mentioned my off putting personality during my monthly appraisal. One month she told me to step my game up and take charge more, the next month she accused me of being bossy. She constantly overloads me with more work than my colleagues, If I say anything she replies " well if you can't do it you're letting the team down".

I confided in her that I suspected I may have Aspergers (only because she was brow beating me about getting upset at work) I begged her not to take it further but she has now told my manager, Occupation Health and Human Resources. I'm worried sick now as I don't know how to deal with these meetings. Help...anyone?

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  • Well I'm sure your employer has broken a few accepted rules of good conduct if your supervisor referred you to Occupational Health because of something you said to her in confidence.

    People may of course be very flattering about her because they are "afraid to stick their heads above the parapet" (at least that's a metaphor that makes some sense - but I always feel I'm on an old railway bridge for some reason, quite a nice setting but totally pointless).

    It may be that your supervisor reacts harshly to anyone saying anything but nice things about her, given she is being very nasty to you (and unprofessional).

    You do need to go to Citizen's Advice, or a solicitor, and get the right advice.  And keep recording what happened.

    I'm astonished at the gross unprofessionalism, although I have to say this sort of bad behaviour can and does occur. And unfortunately many employers are unclear about what they can and cannot do.

    Can the moderators chip in with some advice though. I feel a bit helpless to know what to say. But this is an area where accurate advice is really needed.

    We are after all discussing AS, for which the vast majority do not secure long term employment. If things like this happen, even to people only tentatively diagnosed or considering diagnosis, it points to the kind of issues that need to be better understood.

    And isn't this the sort of thing health professionals need to learn about to better understand the pressures people on the spectrum endure.

    Hope things sort out for you.

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  • Well I'm sure your employer has broken a few accepted rules of good conduct if your supervisor referred you to Occupational Health because of something you said to her in confidence.

    People may of course be very flattering about her because they are "afraid to stick their heads above the parapet" (at least that's a metaphor that makes some sense - but I always feel I'm on an old railway bridge for some reason, quite a nice setting but totally pointless).

    It may be that your supervisor reacts harshly to anyone saying anything but nice things about her, given she is being very nasty to you (and unprofessional).

    You do need to go to Citizen's Advice, or a solicitor, and get the right advice.  And keep recording what happened.

    I'm astonished at the gross unprofessionalism, although I have to say this sort of bad behaviour can and does occur. And unfortunately many employers are unclear about what they can and cannot do.

    Can the moderators chip in with some advice though. I feel a bit helpless to know what to say. But this is an area where accurate advice is really needed.

    We are after all discussing AS, for which the vast majority do not secure long term employment. If things like this happen, even to people only tentatively diagnosed or considering diagnosis, it points to the kind of issues that need to be better understood.

    And isn't this the sort of thing health professionals need to learn about to better understand the pressures people on the spectrum endure.

    Hope things sort out for you.

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