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Bullying at work

shoekitten

I really don't know if I'm paranoid or I'm being bullied for real. My supervisor constantly puts a negative spin on anything I acheive at work. She mentioned my off putting personality during my monthly appraisal. One month she told me to step my game up and take charge more, the next month she accused me of being bossy. She constantly overloads me with more work than my colleagues, If I say anything she replies " well if you can't do it you're letting the team down".

I confided in her that I suspected I may have Aspergers (only because she was brow beating me about getting upset at work) I begged her not to take it further but she has now told my manager, Occupation Health and Human Resources. I'm worried sick now as I don't know how to deal with these meetings. Help...anyone?

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  • Thanks for all the advice and sharing of thoughts. Unfortunately the bully is percieved by other colleagues as lovely. She is super nice to me in public but goes for the jugular in private. And as she is my supervisor I have to have 1-1 meetings with her.

    I asked another senior staff if she could be my supervisor but she says all the supervisors are allocated due to time and availablity and why would I want to change as I have a great supervisor? How the hell could I answer that?

    I had the Occupational Health meeting as I'm undiagnosed I was able to question why I was there. The referral the bully wrote actually says I declared I had a 'condition',when in fact I said to her in what I assumed was a private chat that I had been told by my partner I had many Apsergers traits and that I may pursue a diagnosis.

    She has now called me a liar (in private) and now I feel awful, dread every day as she constantly picks up any tiny error and makes pointed comments about 'some people causing a bad atmosphere'. I really want to run away!

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  • Thanks for all the advice and sharing of thoughts. Unfortunately the bully is percieved by other colleagues as lovely. She is super nice to me in public but goes for the jugular in private. And as she is my supervisor I have to have 1-1 meetings with her.

    I asked another senior staff if she could be my supervisor but she says all the supervisors are allocated due to time and availablity and why would I want to change as I have a great supervisor? How the hell could I answer that?

    I had the Occupational Health meeting as I'm undiagnosed I was able to question why I was there. The referral the bully wrote actually says I declared I had a 'condition',when in fact I said to her in what I assumed was a private chat that I had been told by my partner I had many Apsergers traits and that I may pursue a diagnosis.

    She has now called me a liar (in private) and now I feel awful, dread every day as she constantly picks up any tiny error and makes pointed comments about 'some people causing a bad atmosphere'. I really want to run away!

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