Hi,
Have had a really terrible day at work, to give you some background, have been here nearly 8 years. Got on so well with the team then and we work very well togethor and have been happy with that. About 1 and half years ago a new member joins the team, he has been so difficult to deal with. Most meetings, I put ideas forward and he has just continually rubbished them, with no regard for my feelings (Yes, I think he too has aspergers). Personally, I just don't like him; he is just so forward with his comments, ever since he has joined work has become much more pressureful.
One example, called in for a meeting for estimates, one area my expertese. I give my estimates. He just says ohh thats way too long, just assign them to me and another colleague, well be able to get through them in a day or two. He was assigned all of the tasks, and it took him 3-4 weeks. Would have taken me about a week.
There is a big changed planned for infrastructure of our web sites. I have some experience of this, so put my ideas and design forward with Manager, who is very technically competent. He said, oh yeah that's great and pretty much the direction he felt we needed to go. This other member put forward his ideas, and manager confirmed what I was feeling in that it probably wouldn't work that well.
The team leader stood down earlier this year, wants to do more development. I always got on well with him, and we work fantastically well together (I expect he has Asperger traits at least, very similar though processes to my own). So team leader role comes up, and I knew this new guy will probably put himself forward. So I put myself forward as that would be a nightmare, and while I don't want all the extra pressure, on balance it was the direction I felt would give me control, and confidence. It is a role I have mostly had in my many years in IT industry.
Shocked they have offered the position to this member, and working alongside him has been very difficult, so I have serious concerns working under his management. He's fairly young, so I don't think he has much experience. Always put himself as socialable guy and laughing and joking around. Its just the way he just keeps trampling over me with no consideration.
Have tollerated it working as his equal, but I don't want to tollerate that kind of treatment working under his management. He is a workaholic too, has been doing work it to evening hours to keep on track. I know he has been talking to other members about my productivity, but I just keep hitting problems, picking up the pieces of all the work that has been rushed by others.
I am shocked he has been given the position.
I am also furious of how work have handled the process. I get email calender invite, just titled "Team Leader Discussion" this is straight after just over a week break, and I had an appointment at hospital in the morning that was very emotionally draining. I haven't made everyone at work aware of my aspergers, but managers dealing with this I have had long discussions. I turn up to discussion, expecting it to be with my line manager to discuss process, and ask a few initial informal questions, but it turned out to be with a senior director and in the form of an formal interview. I just was not prepared, and this other chap can bullshit like anything (the same manager commenting about him before about how he makes these complete U turns in the same scentence).
I was going to send a follow up email, but didn't send it, as I got most of main points across, but fluffed up a few questions. Have also been on changes with my medication.
This morning this chap has a general discussion about speakers which I am interested in and in the middle, says just to let you know that I know who the other candidate is for team leader. So I should have not confirmed it, but was just lead in to the thing as he says do you know when they are announcing it they have said nothing to me.
Now puts me in an awkward situation with him being aware I put myself forward.
Here nothing and get on with my work. Then get an email sent by my line manager sitting in a quiet open plan office, about 3 desks away, saying that I didn't get the position.
So angry at how that was dealt with, so am really worried about having to work with this manager. He has had a very negative influence on the team already, so I feel it is a disaster waiting to happen.
I just in a really bad place at the moment. Got very close, to simply just walking out and not returning. I sent a few brief emails just pointing out my anger of how this has been dealt with. Also have emailed HR to make them aware of situation. This chap said he worked out I was other candidate from what was said to him. My line manager has said, he guessed, but your response confirmed. Either way I don't think is acceptable; and I really question motives of the new team leader as to why he has done this.
Having a bad time with Landlord, had hoped to get moving before Christmas, but my social worker has been overwhelmed. Makes that meeting more awkward, as I want maintenance problems sorted before rent is increased (1st January). Which is what we agreed last time rent was increased.
Just feeling really low, bad timing with everything shutting down for Christmas, so is 2 weeks before I see my psychologist again.
I just hate life and how I seem to be on the wrong side when things happen. My user name is random, because I accept things will go right and other things go wrong, but for that to be randomly. It doesn't seem to be like that for me.
I tell my psychologist, I have these bad days and occaisionally good days. If something starts to go bad, I can expect the rest of the day to follow suit. He said that sucks me in to the depression, but I have been trying to challenge that thinking, but Today along with other days recently it seems to follow what I feel
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