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Dawny868

Hi just wanting some advice, my ex boyfriend as of Saturday has Aspergers and out of no where decided to end things on Saturday he did it via text which I was shocked. When arrived home to told me his concerns and that he can't see him having a family etc.  He has a stressful job and struggles with it sometimes.  we moved in together 10weeks ago I moved cities for his job and moved my life for him.  I just don't know if it's worth trying to work things out with him, as we go on holiday tomorrow and every time he see me he cries I just don't know what to think.

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  • Glimmer of hope here... I had a very similar situation once with my current boyfriend. I was frustrated with him for neglecting to talk to me at all for several days, and when I brought it up, he broke down and broke up with me. I was shocked, and it seemed to come from nowhere. A week or so later he asked me if we could meet and talk, and of course I said yes, He explained that he was very stressed about a lot of things, which he didn't communicate because communication stresses him out more. Me bringing up one more problem for him to focus on was too much, and he couldn't handle it so he explained that he took the only way out he could think of. He then asked if we could please give it another chance. We've now been together for over two years, and I know how to better gauge his feelings. When he stops communication it is because he is overly-stressed, and I understand that now and try to give him a bit more space to work things out. Maybe your ex needs the same space to just work through some of his stressors on his own?

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  • Glimmer of hope here... I had a very similar situation once with my current boyfriend. I was frustrated with him for neglecting to talk to me at all for several days, and when I brought it up, he broke down and broke up with me. I was shocked, and it seemed to come from nowhere. A week or so later he asked me if we could meet and talk, and of course I said yes, He explained that he was very stressed about a lot of things, which he didn't communicate because communication stresses him out more. Me bringing up one more problem for him to focus on was too much, and he couldn't handle it so he explained that he took the only way out he could think of. He then asked if we could please give it another chance. We've now been together for over two years, and I know how to better gauge his feelings. When he stops communication it is because he is overly-stressed, and I understand that now and try to give him a bit more space to work things out. Maybe your ex needs the same space to just work through some of his stressors on his own?

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