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Dawny868

Hi just wanting some advice, my ex boyfriend as of Saturday has Aspergers and out of no where decided to end things on Saturday he did it via text which I was shocked. When arrived home to told me his concerns and that he can't see him having a family etc.  He has a stressful job and struggles with it sometimes.  we moved in together 10weeks ago I moved cities for his job and moved my life for him.  I just don't know if it's worth trying to work things out with him, as we go on holiday tomorrow and every time he see me he cries I just don't know what to think.

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  • If a diagnosis of autism is carried out insensitively or by someone prejudiced then it can leave you feeling like a stunted outcast who no one could ever care for. Perhaps your boyfriend experienced that. Perhaps he's been left feeling that he could never make you happy.

    You could reassure him that to you he is the same person as ever and you still care for him. Diagnosis in later life is a massive thing and there is no support given to cope with the aftershock and reassessment of your whole life in the light of your new identity. I'm afraid its going to be a steep learning curve for both of you but i hope he can build a new version of himself as a happy and fulfilled autistic person.

    I wish you both heaps of luck

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  • If a diagnosis of autism is carried out insensitively or by someone prejudiced then it can leave you feeling like a stunted outcast who no one could ever care for. Perhaps your boyfriend experienced that. Perhaps he's been left feeling that he could never make you happy.

    You could reassure him that to you he is the same person as ever and you still care for him. Diagnosis in later life is a massive thing and there is no support given to cope with the aftershock and reassessment of your whole life in the light of your new identity. I'm afraid its going to be a steep learning curve for both of you but i hope he can build a new version of himself as a happy and fulfilled autistic person.

    I wish you both heaps of luck

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