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ASD Friendly Sex Worker - Possible Visit

Frontiera

Hi everyone,

I have officially given up on the dating game as a 26 year old man with Aspergers, I wont go into detail about that but I have had a rough time of it.

For years now, I've been looking into using sex workers as a way of getting intimacy with a woman, in my opinion, a far better way than having a real girlfriend and all the problems that comes with, and I am far from believing a sex worker would "love" me, I am able to have an emotional disconnect where money for sex is concerned.

I have found an ASD friendly sex worker, who dubs herself "the thinking mans companion". She is exactly what I'm looking for, however, she is a drive on the motorway, away from where I am based. Where she is, happens to be a semi-major UK city and I have trouble navigating my own town. There is little chance that I would survive on my own in this situation.

I have asked a family member to transport me to her place, but they are reluctant to do it. I have a friend who's offered, but I wouldn't want her to do it as she would be basically traversing the country on a single petrol tank, which I can seldom reimburse for.

I've considered purchasing an outcall service from her, however, this is £100 more expensive than her incall rate, and I can't afford the incall rate, well, after a bit of saving I could. I do not want her coming to my flat if it were an outcall though, I would need a hotel, but £220 plus £60 odd, is £300, just for an hours time with her, when I could see her at her place for £120 an hour.

I really do not know what to do, I want to see her before she disappears from AdultWork, the fact another punter recommended her to me, and that she has over 200 feedback is a good sign. She has emailed me and said that she can accomodate my anxiety "in the bedroom" and all the time I am with her.

And no, I am not breaking the law, she is independant and working by herself and not of foreign descent.

I am basically an expert on safety issues when visiting sex workers, I read forums about it regularly, the only things I will have in my pockets are a cheap Nokia phone (not my iphone) and the money for the services, no valuables.

I do have a care team, I am under a CMHT for other non-ASD related problems, but I fear that asking them outright to transport me to a prostitute will make them not want to reduce my medication when the reduction is due. I can imagine the headlines now "NHS staff endorse sex work" - haha. I just feel they may be less than sympathetic, the family member mentioned above advised to ask them and ask on here, too.

I wondered if anyone had any ideas.

Many Thanks

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  • Frontiera said:

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    Hi

    I live in Wokingham. Bracknell to Reading is pretty much the only route I know. Can't you get the bus x4 or 4 from Bracknell to Reading.

    I think there are people who don't care what the person looks like, especially if they're only having sex with them. Maybe they would care more if they had to marry them. Are you setting your criteria too high? Why wouldn't you be able to have sex with someone with autism, not all want a relationship. They might understand your problems.

    I have aspergers, I'm ugly, morbidly obese, old (35) & weird mannerisms. Yet I still have offers of sex. Admittedly they're from sperm donors, as I'm seeking a donor.

    Hi,

    My criteria has changed somewhat over the years, back when I was 18 it would have been just someone attractive, now its someone attractive who wont find my 26 year virginity weird and would be able to take the lead "in the bedroom" so to speak, and be understanding of autism, anxiety and sexual inexperience. I feel the only people capable of this would be sex workers, since everyone I've told that I'm a 26 year old virgin has given me pity or looked at me weird. I just don't want an ASD sexual partner, because of my conscience getting in the way. People with ASD, high or low functioning are vulnerable adults in law and theres issues around consent. I tend to find non-ASD women are far more attractive physically, which is what I'm looking for. I guess the fact I'm not attractive is a big detriment to that.

    Also, dont mean to start a debate, but since you are female you will always have sex offers, fat men barely get any, which is what I am. I've only had one genuine one in my entire life back when I was a sort of good looking college guy, before my psychosis kicked off and I had to go on meds that made me eat down the entire pizza shop every day. It was with an online friend though and nothing actually happened.

    If I were to get the bus, what then? My agoraphobia would probably kill me - haha. I'm either going to get an outcall service at much expense or just ask my friend to take me. She has said it will be a belated birthday present as she didnt get me anything this year.

    Anyway, once I've got the £120 needed and there are any more replies to this thread after this one, I'll update here with what the plan is.

    Many Thanks

    Yes, you probably will have to pay, if you want an attractive woman. Gold diggers will sleep with anyone. But it's nature to pair up with your equal. The only exception, is IF you can convince someone you have hidden talents on the inside & they can overlook your faults. But that's hard for 'normal' people to do. I suspect you've had offers from those in your position & maybe you don't physically find them a turn on. Most ASD women of your age aren't considered vulnerable, unless they have a very low IQ or suffer severe mental health problems.

    It seems as if you've given this a lot of thought. Just make sure you're doing it for you & not just what you think is 'normal' & expected. You're never going to be so called 'normal', you could waste your life trying to be.

    A sex worker is more likely to take precautions so she doesn't get pregnant. Whereas a drunk girl probably won't. Which makes it less likely you could end up with some drunk getting pregnant & then aborting your child. So using a sex worker could spare the death of a child. Sadly few will be pro-life though.

    Good luck

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  • Frontiera said:

    [quote][/quote]

    Hi

    I live in Wokingham. Bracknell to Reading is pretty much the only route I know. Can't you get the bus x4 or 4 from Bracknell to Reading.

    I think there are people who don't care what the person looks like, especially if they're only having sex with them. Maybe they would care more if they had to marry them. Are you setting your criteria too high? Why wouldn't you be able to have sex with someone with autism, not all want a relationship. They might understand your problems.

    I have aspergers, I'm ugly, morbidly obese, old (35) & weird mannerisms. Yet I still have offers of sex. Admittedly they're from sperm donors, as I'm seeking a donor.

    Hi,

    My criteria has changed somewhat over the years, back when I was 18 it would have been just someone attractive, now its someone attractive who wont find my 26 year virginity weird and would be able to take the lead "in the bedroom" so to speak, and be understanding of autism, anxiety and sexual inexperience. I feel the only people capable of this would be sex workers, since everyone I've told that I'm a 26 year old virgin has given me pity or looked at me weird. I just don't want an ASD sexual partner, because of my conscience getting in the way. People with ASD, high or low functioning are vulnerable adults in law and theres issues around consent. I tend to find non-ASD women are far more attractive physically, which is what I'm looking for. I guess the fact I'm not attractive is a big detriment to that.

    Also, dont mean to start a debate, but since you are female you will always have sex offers, fat men barely get any, which is what I am. I've only had one genuine one in my entire life back when I was a sort of good looking college guy, before my psychosis kicked off and I had to go on meds that made me eat down the entire pizza shop every day. It was with an online friend though and nothing actually happened.

    If I were to get the bus, what then? My agoraphobia would probably kill me - haha. I'm either going to get an outcall service at much expense or just ask my friend to take me. She has said it will be a belated birthday present as she didnt get me anything this year.

    Anyway, once I've got the £120 needed and there are any more replies to this thread after this one, I'll update here with what the plan is.

    Many Thanks

    Yes, you probably will have to pay, if you want an attractive woman. Gold diggers will sleep with anyone. But it's nature to pair up with your equal. The only exception, is IF you can convince someone you have hidden talents on the inside & they can overlook your faults. But that's hard for 'normal' people to do. I suspect you've had offers from those in your position & maybe you don't physically find them a turn on. Most ASD women of your age aren't considered vulnerable, unless they have a very low IQ or suffer severe mental health problems.

    It seems as if you've given this a lot of thought. Just make sure you're doing it for you & not just what you think is 'normal' & expected. You're never going to be so called 'normal', you could waste your life trying to be.

    A sex worker is more likely to take precautions so she doesn't get pregnant. Whereas a drunk girl probably won't. Which makes it less likely you could end up with some drunk getting pregnant & then aborting your child. So using a sex worker could spare the death of a child. Sadly few will be pro-life though.

    Good luck

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