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ASD Friendly Sex Worker - Possible Visit

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Hi everyone,

I have officially given up on the dating game as a 26 year old man with Aspergers, I wont go into detail about that but I have had a rough time of it.

For years now, I've been looking into using sex workers as a way of getting intimacy with a woman, in my opinion, a far better way than having a real girlfriend and all the problems that comes with, and I am far from believing a sex worker would "love" me, I am able to have an emotional disconnect where money for sex is concerned.

I have found an ASD friendly sex worker, who dubs herself "the thinking mans companion". She is exactly what I'm looking for, however, she is a drive on the motorway, away from where I am based. Where she is, happens to be a semi-major UK city and I have trouble navigating my own town. There is little chance that I would survive on my own in this situation.

I have asked a family member to transport me to her place, but they are reluctant to do it. I have a friend who's offered, but I wouldn't want her to do it as she would be basically traversing the country on a single petrol tank, which I can seldom reimburse for.

I've considered purchasing an outcall service from her, however, this is £100 more expensive than her incall rate, and I can't afford the incall rate, well, after a bit of saving I could. I do not want her coming to my flat if it were an outcall though, I would need a hotel, but £220 plus £60 odd, is £300, just for an hours time with her, when I could see her at her place for £120 an hour.

I really do not know what to do, I want to see her before she disappears from AdultWork, the fact another punter recommended her to me, and that she has over 200 feedback is a good sign. She has emailed me and said that she can accomodate my anxiety "in the bedroom" and all the time I am with her.

And no, I am not breaking the law, she is independant and working by herself and not of foreign descent.

I am basically an expert on safety issues when visiting sex workers, I read forums about it regularly, the only things I will have in my pockets are a cheap Nokia phone (not my iphone) and the money for the services, no valuables.

I do have a care team, I am under a CMHT for other non-ASD related problems, but I fear that asking them outright to transport me to a prostitute will make them not want to reduce my medication when the reduction is due. I can imagine the headlines now "NHS staff endorse sex work" - haha. I just feel they may be less than sympathetic, the family member mentioned above advised to ask them and ask on here, too.

I wondered if anyone had any ideas.

Many Thanks

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  • Your friend sounds like a good support to you.  

    Your right some Women are sexually harassed through out their lives so may not know what it's like to feel the way you do ? Unattractive to others. At least you will get to choose to loose your virginity. Some of us never had the choice.

    It seems you want sex not a relationship.  That's a normal attitude at your age. At least your honest about this. But self esteem doesn't come from the act of sex.

    Its not about being a real man.  What does that mean in 2016 ?

    Regardless of if you sleep with a sex worker you will still have to deal with what you don't like within yourself.  

    Since you described yourself lifestyle as unnatural what would be your view of natural ?

    The way you approach Women is affected by the way you think about you.  Plus what you want from them.  

    Some Women don't want casual sex with no emotional ties,doesn't make them your enemy. Just different from you.  

    Sex workers can carry the hpv like anyone else who has had more then one sexual partner.  Condoms are not 100% safe.  uncomfortable fact.

    Hope you don't take offence 

    Star

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  • Your friend sounds like a good support to you.  

    Your right some Women are sexually harassed through out their lives so may not know what it's like to feel the way you do ? Unattractive to others. At least you will get to choose to loose your virginity. Some of us never had the choice.

    It seems you want sex not a relationship.  That's a normal attitude at your age. At least your honest about this. But self esteem doesn't come from the act of sex.

    Its not about being a real man.  What does that mean in 2016 ?

    Regardless of if you sleep with a sex worker you will still have to deal with what you don't like within yourself.  

    Since you described yourself lifestyle as unnatural what would be your view of natural ?

    The way you approach Women is affected by the way you think about you.  Plus what you want from them.  

    Some Women don't want casual sex with no emotional ties,doesn't make them your enemy. Just different from you.  

    Sex workers can carry the hpv like anyone else who has had more then one sexual partner.  Condoms are not 100% safe.  uncomfortable fact.

    Hope you don't take offence 

    Star

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