Hi everyone,
I have officially given up on the dating game as a 26 year old man with Aspergers, I wont go into detail about that but I have had a rough time of it.
For years now, I've been looking into using sex workers as a way of getting intimacy with a woman, in my opinion, a far better way than having a real girlfriend and all the problems that comes with, and I am far from believing a sex worker would "love" me, I am able to have an emotional disconnect where money for sex is concerned.
I have found an ASD friendly sex worker, who dubs herself "the thinking mans companion". She is exactly what I'm looking for, however, she is a drive on the motorway, away from where I am based. Where she is, happens to be a semi-major UK city and I have trouble navigating my own town. There is little chance that I would survive on my own in this situation.
I have asked a family member to transport me to her place, but they are reluctant to do it. I have a friend who's offered, but I wouldn't want her to do it as she would be basically traversing the country on a single petrol tank, which I can seldom reimburse for.
I've considered purchasing an outcall service from her, however, this is £100 more expensive than her incall rate, and I can't afford the incall rate, well, after a bit of saving I could. I do not want her coming to my flat if it were an outcall though, I would need a hotel, but £220 plus £60 odd, is £300, just for an hours time with her, when I could see her at her place for £120 an hour.
I really do not know what to do, I want to see her before she disappears from AdultWork, the fact another punter recommended her to me, and that she has over 200 feedback is a good sign. She has emailed me and said that she can accomodate my anxiety "in the bedroom" and all the time I am with her.
And no, I am not breaking the law, she is independant and working by herself and not of foreign descent.
I am basically an expert on safety issues when visiting sex workers, I read forums about it regularly, the only things I will have in my pockets are a cheap Nokia phone (not my iphone) and the money for the services, no valuables.
I do have a care team, I am under a CMHT for other non-ASD related problems, but I fear that asking them outright to transport me to a prostitute will make them not want to reduce my medication when the reduction is due. I can imagine the headlines now "NHS staff endorse sex work" - haha. I just feel they may be less than sympathetic, the family member mentioned above advised to ask them and ask on here, too.
I wondered if anyone had any ideas.
Many Thanks
