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ASD Friendly Sex Worker - Possible Visit

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Hi everyone,

I have officially given up on the dating game as a 26 year old man with Aspergers, I wont go into detail about that but I have had a rough time of it.

For years now, I've been looking into using sex workers as a way of getting intimacy with a woman, in my opinion, a far better way than having a real girlfriend and all the problems that comes with, and I am far from believing a sex worker would "love" me, I am able to have an emotional disconnect where money for sex is concerned.

I have found an ASD friendly sex worker, who dubs herself "the thinking mans companion". She is exactly what I'm looking for, however, she is a drive on the motorway, away from where I am based. Where she is, happens to be a semi-major UK city and I have trouble navigating my own town. There is little chance that I would survive on my own in this situation.

I have asked a family member to transport me to her place, but they are reluctant to do it. I have a friend who's offered, but I wouldn't want her to do it as she would be basically traversing the country on a single petrol tank, which I can seldom reimburse for.

I've considered purchasing an outcall service from her, however, this is £100 more expensive than her incall rate, and I can't afford the incall rate, well, after a bit of saving I could. I do not want her coming to my flat if it were an outcall though, I would need a hotel, but £220 plus £60 odd, is £300, just for an hours time with her, when I could see her at her place for £120 an hour.

I really do not know what to do, I want to see her before she disappears from AdultWork, the fact another punter recommended her to me, and that she has over 200 feedback is a good sign. She has emailed me and said that she can accomodate my anxiety "in the bedroom" and all the time I am with her.

And no, I am not breaking the law, she is independant and working by herself and not of foreign descent.

I am basically an expert on safety issues when visiting sex workers, I read forums about it regularly, the only things I will have in my pockets are a cheap Nokia phone (not my iphone) and the money for the services, no valuables.

I do have a care team, I am under a CMHT for other non-ASD related problems, but I fear that asking them outright to transport me to a prostitute will make them not want to reduce my medication when the reduction is due. I can imagine the headlines now "NHS staff endorse sex work" - haha. I just feel they may be less than sympathetic, the family member mentioned above advised to ask them and ask on here, too.

I wondered if anyone had any ideas.

Many Thanks

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  • ClaireHig said:

    Hi

    I read an article a few years ago about health & social care taking adults with mental health/learning problems for visits with sex workers. There was outcry over why they had funded that but refused to provide even basic care for others. So I think funding would be an issue.

    It's a shame you can't find someone else with autism who wants a similar no strings relationship. Most so called 'normal' adults don't have to pay for no strings sex. So it seems unfair.

    I've never chosen to have sex. But I don't think I'd ever pay someone. They either want sex & that's their reward or they don't. If they want payment that kind of implies they didn't want sex & that's a grey area.

    Hi,

    I wouldnt want an ASD partner, too many problems with that. I have been going to autism social events for the past year with no success, no new friends made. Both "normal" and ASD women want nothing to do with me. And yes, I am straight (heterosexual). So I've given up going to these events or trying to meet women as I feel sex workers are the way forward. I think women are mostly turned off by my too high ambition (which isn't too high at all when I explain it), and the fact that I am not good looking in any sense of the word.

    I agree about not telling my care team, but I shall consider it once medication reduction has been and gone. There IS one avenue left, but its a stretch, getting my friend from Swindon to take me, but I am in Bracknell and the sex worker is in Reading so thats easily a tank of petrol when you take into account all the journeys back and forth.

    I have tried dating sites for five years and not met up with anyone. Have decided to pack that in.

    I feel that the benefits of seeing a sex worker greatly outweigh any risks or negatives. It will get rid of all the jealousy about other people being in relationships (even though I wouldn't be in one, just having the best part of a relationship), it will give me a big rush of serotonin and endorphins and I will feel things that I should have when I was like 18. I can see me having a mile wide grin for months! Ask any sex worker that works with disabled clients, most will say theres a transformation!

    Anyway sorry for long post - I will continue to think about it in mean time. From now on I dont want to waste time trying to be social and not getting anywhere so I hope you can see why I want to see a sex worker.

    Many Thanks

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  • ClaireHig said:

    Hi

    I read an article a few years ago about health & social care taking adults with mental health/learning problems for visits with sex workers. There was outcry over why they had funded that but refused to provide even basic care for others. So I think funding would be an issue.

    It's a shame you can't find someone else with autism who wants a similar no strings relationship. Most so called 'normal' adults don't have to pay for no strings sex. So it seems unfair.

    I've never chosen to have sex. But I don't think I'd ever pay someone. They either want sex & that's their reward or they don't. If they want payment that kind of implies they didn't want sex & that's a grey area.

    Hi,

    I wouldnt want an ASD partner, too many problems with that. I have been going to autism social events for the past year with no success, no new friends made. Both "normal" and ASD women want nothing to do with me. And yes, I am straight (heterosexual). So I've given up going to these events or trying to meet women as I feel sex workers are the way forward. I think women are mostly turned off by my too high ambition (which isn't too high at all when I explain it), and the fact that I am not good looking in any sense of the word.

    I agree about not telling my care team, but I shall consider it once medication reduction has been and gone. There IS one avenue left, but its a stretch, getting my friend from Swindon to take me, but I am in Bracknell and the sex worker is in Reading so thats easily a tank of petrol when you take into account all the journeys back and forth.

    I have tried dating sites for five years and not met up with anyone. Have decided to pack that in.

    I feel that the benefits of seeing a sex worker greatly outweigh any risks or negatives. It will get rid of all the jealousy about other people being in relationships (even though I wouldn't be in one, just having the best part of a relationship), it will give me a big rush of serotonin and endorphins and I will feel things that I should have when I was like 18. I can see me having a mile wide grin for months! Ask any sex worker that works with disabled clients, most will say theres a transformation!

    Anyway sorry for long post - I will continue to think about it in mean time. From now on I dont want to waste time trying to be social and not getting anywhere so I hope you can see why I want to see a sex worker.

    Many Thanks

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