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Anxiety over women and my 'natural urges'

StephenHarris

I have a particular anxiety over women in a state of undress... to wit pretty much showing any skin at all... (the current crop top fashion has not helped).

For example, if I'm walking past Victoria's Secret (who is this Victoria lady anyway? She's useless at keeping secrets, that's for sure), I'll look at the pictures of the models in the window... then feel guilty for doing so.

I'm still a virgin as well... but I want to get married and have sex... but I fear I'll never meet anyone and that I'm ugly.

Sometimes, I think I should just have my testicles removed as I'll never use them and they just cause me problems...

Any advice?

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  • Hi Stephen, Thanks for the info about your age. You are well past puberty so unless you have any medical problems you are familiar with how a man's body works.

    Your testicles are designed for reproductive purposes, to produce the sperm needed to fertilise an egg from a potential partner via sexual intercourse or these days it can be done artificially in a laboratory. The urges you are experiencing are therefore perfectly natural and without them none of us would exist. From time to time unless you masturbate regularly,  nocturnal dreams will occur and the excess unused sperm will be ejaculated from your body in a completely natural way. There is no need for you to feel guilty about this therfore despite anything you have heard or been told as a member of the CoE or elsewhere. As I indicated above the trick is to manage those desires in accordance with the norms of the society we live in and not to act inappropriately.

    I really do reccomend you obtain Steve Biddulph's book because it will help you to understand what society currently expects from men. Although the goal posts seem to be moving since I was your age, for the better in the main.

    What you are experiencing is common amongst all men of your age including those with ASD.

    Take care, Laddie.

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  • Hi Stephen, Thanks for the info about your age. You are well past puberty so unless you have any medical problems you are familiar with how a man's body works.

    Your testicles are designed for reproductive purposes, to produce the sperm needed to fertilise an egg from a potential partner via sexual intercourse or these days it can be done artificially in a laboratory. The urges you are experiencing are therefore perfectly natural and without them none of us would exist. From time to time unless you masturbate regularly,  nocturnal dreams will occur and the excess unused sperm will be ejaculated from your body in a completely natural way. There is no need for you to feel guilty about this therfore despite anything you have heard or been told as a member of the CoE or elsewhere. As I indicated above the trick is to manage those desires in accordance with the norms of the society we live in and not to act inappropriately.

    I really do reccomend you obtain Steve Biddulph's book because it will help you to understand what society currently expects from men. Although the goal posts seem to be moving since I was your age, for the better in the main.

    What you are experiencing is common amongst all men of your age including those with ASD.

    Take care, Laddie.

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