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AS and birthdays

AndyC

As my birthday is coming up soon again I was just wondering if anybody else has difficulties with their birthdays. With each passing year I find my birthday more of a struggle. 

It’s not the day per se or the fact that I’m getting older, but I find all the attention I get on my birthday rather overwhelming and sooner or later I wish that everybody just leaves me alone. I also don’t like getting presents and surprises in general. I hate having phone calls and usually everybody phones on that day and that just stresses me out a lot. It makes me feel uncomfortable and anxious and I generally just feel very, very exhausted in the end. 

However, people just don’t seem to understand why I’d rather be on my own on that day and they think I’m just being a diva when I tell them not to come round or not to phone. I don’t mean to hurt or reject anyone by doing this, but I just cannot handle this situation very well. 

Does anybody else feel like this?

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  • Yes! 
    I don’t like the fuss or attention. I don’t see the point. I mean, I do actually like a card, but it’s not a requirement. My daughter is exactly the same.

    I recall at junior school during assembly, those with birthdays that week had to stand on a bench, hold a candle, and have the teacher light it. We would then have to listen to Happy birthday sung by all the kids in school, and blow out the candle. We would then take turns to tell everyone what we received, and then we were given sweets.

    I detested it. I actually refused to stand on the bench, arguing that I could still hear the singing, and hold a candle, and how did doing that have anything to do with my birthday. I got into trouble. I didn’t care, it was stupid and I wasn’t going to be a part of it!

    I’m the same with Xmas, but I still do the usual traditions etc and decorations, as I’m a mum and ‘that’s what people do’.

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  • Yes! 
    I don’t like the fuss or attention. I don’t see the point. I mean, I do actually like a card, but it’s not a requirement. My daughter is exactly the same.

    I recall at junior school during assembly, those with birthdays that week had to stand on a bench, hold a candle, and have the teacher light it. We would then have to listen to Happy birthday sung by all the kids in school, and blow out the candle. We would then take turns to tell everyone what we received, and then we were given sweets.

    I detested it. I actually refused to stand on the bench, arguing that I could still hear the singing, and hold a candle, and how did doing that have anything to do with my birthday. I got into trouble. I didn’t care, it was stupid and I wasn’t going to be a part of it!

    I’m the same with Xmas, but I still do the usual traditions etc and decorations, as I’m a mum and ‘that’s what people do’.

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