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AS and birthdays

AndyC

As my birthday is coming up soon again I was just wondering if anybody else has difficulties with their birthdays. With each passing year I find my birthday more of a struggle. 

It’s not the day per se or the fact that I’m getting older, but I find all the attention I get on my birthday rather overwhelming and sooner or later I wish that everybody just leaves me alone. I also don’t like getting presents and surprises in general. I hate having phone calls and usually everybody phones on that day and that just stresses me out a lot. It makes me feel uncomfortable and anxious and I generally just feel very, very exhausted in the end. 

However, people just don’t seem to understand why I’d rather be on my own on that day and they think I’m just being a diva when I tell them not to come round or not to phone. I don’t mean to hurt or reject anyone by doing this, but I just cannot handle this situation very well. 

Does anybody else feel like this?

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  • I used to change my birthday on social media, so people don't get notifications and message me on my birthday. I don't want gifts, and I don't want a whole party. Eating a meal with someone else is good enough for me. 

    My partner who is also ND, absolutely hates phone calls and messages wishing him a happy anything, hates gifts of any kind, and hates having to celebrate any special occassion. I mean I don't really care about special occassions either, but if we were dating other people, they'd think we were heartless and uncaring, when really it just seems like more of a hassle to us. 

    I think the main thing about special events, is that it throws your routine off, and adds a bunch of wild things that can happen throughout the day. It's really stressful to be pressured into having to mask for others, when you just want them to stop with all the distruptions. They think we'll be happy with all the attention, but really we just want it to all go away so we can live peacefully.

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  • I used to change my birthday on social media, so people don't get notifications and message me on my birthday. I don't want gifts, and I don't want a whole party. Eating a meal with someone else is good enough for me. 

    My partner who is also ND, absolutely hates phone calls and messages wishing him a happy anything, hates gifts of any kind, and hates having to celebrate any special occassion. I mean I don't really care about special occassions either, but if we were dating other people, they'd think we were heartless and uncaring, when really it just seems like more of a hassle to us. 

    I think the main thing about special events, is that it throws your routine off, and adds a bunch of wild things that can happen throughout the day. It's really stressful to be pressured into having to mask for others, when you just want them to stop with all the distruptions. They think we'll be happy with all the attention, but really we just want it to all go away so we can live peacefully.

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