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AS and birthdays

AndyC

As my birthday is coming up soon again I was just wondering if anybody else has difficulties with their birthdays. With each passing year I find my birthday more of a struggle. 

It’s not the day per se or the fact that I’m getting older, but I find all the attention I get on my birthday rather overwhelming and sooner or later I wish that everybody just leaves me alone. I also don’t like getting presents and surprises in general. I hate having phone calls and usually everybody phones on that day and that just stresses me out a lot. It makes me feel uncomfortable and anxious and I generally just feel very, very exhausted in the end. 

However, people just don’t seem to understand why I’d rather be on my own on that day and they think I’m just being a diva when I tell them not to come round or not to phone. I don’t mean to hurt or reject anyone by doing this, but I just cannot handle this situation very well. 

Does anybody else feel like this?

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  • I have never seen the point of birthdays. So I have been round the sun one more time. Great. 

    Birthday cards are a waste of cardboard. They are images forced into your home that you wouldn't have chosen and don't particularly want to look at that have to be  picked up and dusted around !

    Presents are usually not things I actually want. I am fortunate enough to be able to buy something if I want it (I sm not rich and I don't want much stuff as I see stuff as wastage too)

    If people all just kept their own money they could afford to buy what the want instead of money being exchanged or things being bought for people that they probably didn't want. Unless they have a wish list and have asked for it but then again. If the person with the wish list didn't have to buy 10 people presents they could just buy what was on the wish list ! 

    Sorry! It's nice to be able to let this out !!!!!

  • in reply to Magnolia1

    Very eloquently put. I feel it's good to raise those points about wastage.

    One more wastage point I'd raise is the wastage of time and mental resource. Thinking up reasonably ok (dare I say creative or useful) present ideas takes enormous amounts of time and mental energy.


    In recent years, I've tried to give people my time in more productive and less wasteful ways. My present to one person in the last year was to accompany them on a trip to see a battlefield they'd been wanting to visit for a long time. This meant they got to go somewhere they were interested in with someone with them to share in their interest and passion for the subject. I had no regrets in giving my time for that.

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  • in reply to Magnolia1

    Very eloquently put. I feel it's good to raise those points about wastage.

    One more wastage point I'd raise is the wastage of time and mental resource. Thinking up reasonably ok (dare I say creative or useful) present ideas takes enormous amounts of time and mental energy.


    In recent years, I've tried to give people my time in more productive and less wasteful ways. My present to one person in the last year was to accompany them on a trip to see a battlefield they'd been wanting to visit for a long time. This meant they got to go somewhere they were interested in with someone with them to share in their interest and passion for the subject. I had no regrets in giving my time for that.

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