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AS and birthdays

AndyC

As my birthday is coming up soon again I was just wondering if anybody else has difficulties with their birthdays. With each passing year I find my birthday more of a struggle. 

It’s not the day per se or the fact that I’m getting older, but I find all the attention I get on my birthday rather overwhelming and sooner or later I wish that everybody just leaves me alone. I also don’t like getting presents and surprises in general. I hate having phone calls and usually everybody phones on that day and that just stresses me out a lot. It makes me feel uncomfortable and anxious and I generally just feel very, very exhausted in the end. 

However, people just don’t seem to understand why I’d rather be on my own on that day and they think I’m just being a diva when I tell them not to come round or not to phone. I don’t mean to hurt or reject anyone by doing this, but I just cannot handle this situation very well. 

Does anybody else feel like this?

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  • Yes today is mine and I feel a meltdown coming on a good friend jumped to help throw a party I love her to death but I feel overwhelmed and just wanna hide in my room and sleep my bf is overwhelming me completely cause he's pushing to do this also . its too much like a dinasour sitting on your chest feeling and like you said the older you get the more and more the feeling of it feels like it should not be a big deal and feels more like pressure .    and the gift part sucks personally for me I feel weird offering up ideas of what I want well for one I don't know what I want I usually do things on my own order online if I need anything. So the gift thing is deff awkward and hard to except .   wish people would understand we don't like anything to be a big deal its just too much . I know your post is old but hopefully things worked out for you .

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  • Yes today is mine and I feel a meltdown coming on a good friend jumped to help throw a party I love her to death but I feel overwhelmed and just wanna hide in my room and sleep my bf is overwhelming me completely cause he's pushing to do this also . its too much like a dinasour sitting on your chest feeling and like you said the older you get the more and more the feeling of it feels like it should not be a big deal and feels more like pressure .    and the gift part sucks personally for me I feel weird offering up ideas of what I want well for one I don't know what I want I usually do things on my own order online if I need anything. So the gift thing is deff awkward and hard to except .   wish people would understand we don't like anything to be a big deal its just too much . I know your post is old but hopefully things worked out for you .

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