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Tired of miss communicating problems

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I have aspergers and a partber of 5 years. I am finding it really diffocult since we met of not getting into arguments over the way i try and express things to.him. i will meam to say something nice to him and when i open my mouth it comes out all wrong and i end up in a big argument where i am left crying all night and tired of this happening and not wantimg to be here. I get so upset because i say things with a calm heart and im happy and expect him to say thank you or appreciate what i said but i get hated for it and into a big argument when all i wanted was to make him happy and then we are both angry. When i try and explain it is my aapergers he will tell me oh shutup its aspergers again is it and he thinks i am just being nasty but i get upset like he doesnt umderstand me or aspergers problems i just wish i could be alone forever but we have children so i cant do that i have to try and make it work so they have a family unit.

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  • There's a lot of people who know much more about this than me, CloudNine, but I have come across this before. It's really a lack of knowledge that made your family think you were somehow 'evil' or 'anti-social' and they probably thought you were just looking for excuses to explain your behaviour, because many kids do this.

    It's a bit surprising that even after you were diagnosed your mom thought it was her fault for how you were. This just shows how unaware people can be and how they love to stick to their prejudices because, I guess, they are used to them. But really, there's no excuse nowadays because there's so much information online about autism and sites like this one.

    I just feel a bit sorry for the lack of understanding and patience the people in your life have shown you and at least you can get things off your chest with people here, who know what you have gone through and continue to go through.

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  • There's a lot of people who know much more about this than me, CloudNine, but I have come across this before. It's really a lack of knowledge that made your family think you were somehow 'evil' or 'anti-social' and they probably thought you were just looking for excuses to explain your behaviour, because many kids do this.

    It's a bit surprising that even after you were diagnosed your mom thought it was her fault for how you were. This just shows how unaware people can be and how they love to stick to their prejudices because, I guess, they are used to them. But really, there's no excuse nowadays because there's so much information online about autism and sites like this one.

    I just feel a bit sorry for the lack of understanding and patience the people in your life have shown you and at least you can get things off your chest with people here, who know what you have gone through and continue to go through.

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