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Tired of miss communicating problems

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I have aspergers and a partber of 5 years. I am finding it really diffocult since we met of not getting into arguments over the way i try and express things to.him. i will meam to say something nice to him and when i open my mouth it comes out all wrong and i end up in a big argument where i am left crying all night and tired of this happening and not wantimg to be here. I get so upset because i say things with a calm heart and im happy and expect him to say thank you or appreciate what i said but i get hated for it and into a big argument when all i wanted was to make him happy and then we are both angry. When i try and explain it is my aapergers he will tell me oh shutup its aspergers again is it and he thinks i am just being nasty but i get upset like he doesnt umderstand me or aspergers problems i just wish i could be alone forever but we have children so i cant do that i have to try and make it work so they have a family unit.

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  • Judging by what you have said, CloudNine, it looks to me like he's a bit immature and has a pretty fragile ego if he thinks you are having a go at him, when you are not - not really.

    Although it's not your fault, is there any way you could be a bit more careful in what you say to him? You know the kinds of things that seem to upset him so wouldn't it be a good idea to try to avoid these as much as possible? Not easy, I know, but maybe you have to be a better 'actor.'

    This might stop the situation from escalating into a full-blown row every time he gets upset.

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  • Judging by what you have said, CloudNine, it looks to me like he's a bit immature and has a pretty fragile ego if he thinks you are having a go at him, when you are not - not really.

    Although it's not your fault, is there any way you could be a bit more careful in what you say to him? You know the kinds of things that seem to upset him so wouldn't it be a good idea to try to avoid these as much as possible? Not easy, I know, but maybe you have to be a better 'actor.'

    This might stop the situation from escalating into a full-blown row every time he gets upset.

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