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Tired of miss communicating problems

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I have aspergers and a partber of 5 years. I am finding it really diffocult since we met of not getting into arguments over the way i try and express things to.him. i will meam to say something nice to him and when i open my mouth it comes out all wrong and i end up in a big argument where i am left crying all night and tired of this happening and not wantimg to be here. I get so upset because i say things with a calm heart and im happy and expect him to say thank you or appreciate what i said but i get hated for it and into a big argument when all i wanted was to make him happy and then we are both angry. When i try and explain it is my aapergers he will tell me oh shutup its aspergers again is it and he thinks i am just being nasty but i get upset like he doesnt umderstand me or aspergers problems i just wish i could be alone forever but we have children so i cant do that i have to try and make it work so they have a family unit.

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  • Ok true. The argument always starts when i have said something the wrong way and i expect he will reply and be happy and glad with me but then because he starts shouting and arguing inthink oh no why is he being like this what did i say or act wrong to get a bad response off him. Then i start to get upset and say dont get angry and he will say im too emotional and pick up on every little thing he does or says and im trying to explain the whole time it wasnt meant to end up like this i was planning we were happy and he was going to be ok woth what i said and feell happy that im trying to be caring towards him but he can get angry at this like he says my tone of voice is pissed off or i shouted or the word i actually said was out of order or that i described something totally away from what i was meant to say and it just gets out of hand completely i just end up in a big problem when i didnt want that i just was meant to be nice. When he says hurtful things i get upset and i will be nasty back to make him feell how i feel and understand im hurtingnso he needs to hurt too so he understands its not nice but this makes it get worse

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  • Ok true. The argument always starts when i have said something the wrong way and i expect he will reply and be happy and glad with me but then because he starts shouting and arguing inthink oh no why is he being like this what did i say or act wrong to get a bad response off him. Then i start to get upset and say dont get angry and he will say im too emotional and pick up on every little thing he does or says and im trying to explain the whole time it wasnt meant to end up like this i was planning we were happy and he was going to be ok woth what i said and feell happy that im trying to be caring towards him but he can get angry at this like he says my tone of voice is pissed off or i shouted or the word i actually said was out of order or that i described something totally away from what i was meant to say and it just gets out of hand completely i just end up in a big problem when i didnt want that i just was meant to be nice. When he says hurtful things i get upset and i will be nasty back to make him feell how i feel and understand im hurtingnso he needs to hurt too so he understands its not nice but this makes it get worse

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