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Tired of miss communicating problems

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I have aspergers and a partber of 5 years. I am finding it really diffocult since we met of not getting into arguments over the way i try and express things to.him. i will meam to say something nice to him and when i open my mouth it comes out all wrong and i end up in a big argument where i am left crying all night and tired of this happening and not wantimg to be here. I get so upset because i say things with a calm heart and im happy and expect him to say thank you or appreciate what i said but i get hated for it and into a big argument when all i wanted was to make him happy and then we are both angry. When i try and explain it is my aapergers he will tell me oh shutup its aspergers again is it and he thinks i am just being nasty but i get upset like he doesnt umderstand me or aspergers problems i just wish i could be alone forever but we have children so i cant do that i have to try and make it work so they have a family unit.

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  • See, I'm not there when you and he are fighting so I can't judge how much it's the Aspergers and how much it's because you are just being mean. I'm not saying you are, so don't get me wrong CloudNine, but from what you say if it really is due to your Aspergers I think he has the problem, not you.

    To me, if he really loves you he should be more understanding and try to find out more about your communication problems, which are not your fault. But if he doesn't want to try to understand you and prefers to think it's just you being argumentative then maybe your relationship isn't as strong as it should be....

    I'm just wondering if he needs more time to come to terms with the fact of your Aspergers. It's ok to give him more time but the question is how much time?

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  • See, I'm not there when you and he are fighting so I can't judge how much it's the Aspergers and how much it's because you are just being mean. I'm not saying you are, so don't get me wrong CloudNine, but from what you say if it really is due to your Aspergers I think he has the problem, not you.

    To me, if he really loves you he should be more understanding and try to find out more about your communication problems, which are not your fault. But if he doesn't want to try to understand you and prefers to think it's just you being argumentative then maybe your relationship isn't as strong as it should be....

    I'm just wondering if he needs more time to come to terms with the fact of your Aspergers. It's ok to give him more time but the question is how much time?

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