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Tired of miss communicating problems

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I have aspergers and a partber of 5 years. I am finding it really diffocult since we met of not getting into arguments over the way i try and express things to.him. i will meam to say something nice to him and when i open my mouth it comes out all wrong and i end up in a big argument where i am left crying all night and tired of this happening and not wantimg to be here. I get so upset because i say things with a calm heart and im happy and expect him to say thank you or appreciate what i said but i get hated for it and into a big argument when all i wanted was to make him happy and then we are both angry. When i try and explain it is my aapergers he will tell me oh shutup its aspergers again is it and he thinks i am just being nasty but i get upset like he doesnt umderstand me or aspergers problems i just wish i could be alone forever but we have children so i cant do that i have to try and make it work so they have a family unit.

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  • Thanks this is the first tine i have really spoken out about it and it is so nice to realise i am not alone as i thought i was. I have no friends and i stay in my house 24/7 so my only communication is with my partber and a few family members when they turn up once a month or so. I think i need to try and meet people that can relate with me as i have never fitted in or been able to have friends since primary school and nursery and there are times i get really upset and lonely and feel i should just not be on this earth because i was born into a world i dont fit in. Thank you for replying to my problem i feel a aense of understanding finally. And we have gone through the things on this page together so he understands me better but i think because i have always been like this since he met me 5 years ago. Now that it has come to light that it is aspergers, he finds it hard to see my behaviour as aspergers behaviour and i cant really explain this well. But i mean like he will say for example do nit blame it on the aspergers it is just you and you have always been like this from when you lived with your mom and you will never change and i will say but all my life ive had aspergers and thats why and now i can say i am behaving this way because of my aspergers as now we have a name for it and he will say shutup stop making excuses for yourself u are just a d***head i can never win to be honest its hard

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  • Thanks this is the first tine i have really spoken out about it and it is so nice to realise i am not alone as i thought i was. I have no friends and i stay in my house 24/7 so my only communication is with my partber and a few family members when they turn up once a month or so. I think i need to try and meet people that can relate with me as i have never fitted in or been able to have friends since primary school and nursery and there are times i get really upset and lonely and feel i should just not be on this earth because i was born into a world i dont fit in. Thank you for replying to my problem i feel a aense of understanding finally. And we have gone through the things on this page together so he understands me better but i think because i have always been like this since he met me 5 years ago. Now that it has come to light that it is aspergers, he finds it hard to see my behaviour as aspergers behaviour and i cant really explain this well. But i mean like he will say for example do nit blame it on the aspergers it is just you and you have always been like this from when you lived with your mom and you will never change and i will say but all my life ive had aspergers and thats why and now i can say i am behaving this way because of my aspergers as now we have a name for it and he will say shutup stop making excuses for yourself u are just a d***head i can never win to be honest its hard

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