Emotional Intelligence

Hi, KW68 here again,

Been doing some thinking and I have been coming back to the idea of emotional intelligence, and how basically this is something that those with an ASD struggle with.

I am not sure whether the issues I used to have with my spouse being upset & my not offering her empathy is a signal of that lack of emotional intelligence, of not being able to tell what to do in such situations (other than to kind of think "I hope she'll get over it"). When she used to ask if I loved her I'd get rather flustered, point to the fact that I was with her, that I did things to care for her, were my response, but I never ever thought to just say "I love you" in response. I can't tell if it was just that I didn't love her, or just couldn't express it.

Does anyone else here have similar experiences of just wishing that emotional conversations didn't surface, of not knowing what to say or do in response?

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Lotus said:

    Perhaps it would be easier if we were all born with pointy ears.

    Trouble is, you'd just get pointiness insecurity.  Too pointy?  Not pointy enough?  The wrong shape of point?  Uneven points?

    D:

    Ahem.  Er, sorry for completely missing the point, as I do.  I'm never too sure about how comfortable I am reacting to stuff.  I think I used to bottle it up more and would get cross whereas I tend to be a little more expressive nowadays.  I'm still not totally comfortable with it, but I think it's the lesser evil.  And is probably a little healthier for me too.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Lotus said:

    Perhaps it would be easier if we were all born with pointy ears.

    Trouble is, you'd just get pointiness insecurity.  Too pointy?  Not pointy enough?  The wrong shape of point?  Uneven points?

    D:

    Ahem.  Er, sorry for completely missing the point, as I do.  I'm never too sure about how comfortable I am reacting to stuff.  I think I used to bottle it up more and would get cross whereas I tend to be a little more expressive nowadays.  I'm still not totally comfortable with it, but I think it's the lesser evil.  And is probably a little healthier for me too.

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