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Hi, I was going to post this in my other thread on neighbour problems.

One thing I am annoyed about is that my neighbours never communicate with me, unless they want something. OK I may have problems socialising and general chat, but I would guess most of those do not. Even if they don't want to be friendly with me, you would have though they would want to maintain some very loose sociable contact from time to time, as they are likely to want something from me in the future. 

I spent a very brief period in my past working and living in New Zealand / Australia. It is something totally different. That was in 1997 and 2008, just 3 weeks in New Zealand in 2008. Literally after my 28 hour flight where I desperately wanted to go to bed. I was up for a further 9 hours socialising with the person I was renting a holday home from, invited to a social wine tasting drinks with several people, then invited by people there to join them next week for a chat and a meal. Within that brief time, I have had more social contact with my neighbours than a decade of living here.

Similar in 1997, although it was nearly 3 months in Sydney, Melbourne, and Aukland

In Sydney, during a month stay, I was invited to a meal with a friend of a work colleague, I was taking a week off work and she kindly offered me the use of her spare granny annex, car, and phone (to UK) for free (I did pay her when I left, as I felt that was the right thing to do). 

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  • I know it takes effort but some Aspies have learnt how to 'fake it' in order to strike up a conversation.

    They have likened the process to having a limited 'social bucket', as it were, where they are able to interact socially with people a bit but after that it becomes very stressful and they feel a strong urge to withdraw.

    Often, Aspies are very clever people, so they have the ability to 'act out' social encounters and it can be worth the effort if it leads to a better relationship with one's neighbours. After all, you never know when it might become important to have to approach a neighbour, and vice-versa.

    There's a guy who is one of the presenters on BBC 2's 'Springwatch', Chris Packham, who's an Aspie, yet you would never know it unless you were told.

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  • I know it takes effort but some Aspies have learnt how to 'fake it' in order to strike up a conversation.

    They have likened the process to having a limited 'social bucket', as it were, where they are able to interact socially with people a bit but after that it becomes very stressful and they feel a strong urge to withdraw.

    Often, Aspies are very clever people, so they have the ability to 'act out' social encounters and it can be worth the effort if it leads to a better relationship with one's neighbours. After all, you never know when it might become important to have to approach a neighbour, and vice-versa.

    There's a guy who is one of the presenters on BBC 2's 'Springwatch', Chris Packham, who's an Aspie, yet you would never know it unless you were told.

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