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Hi, I was going to post this in my other thread on neighbour problems.

One thing I am annoyed about is that my neighbours never communicate with me, unless they want something. OK I may have problems socialising and general chat, but I would guess most of those do not. Even if they don't want to be friendly with me, you would have though they would want to maintain some very loose sociable contact from time to time, as they are likely to want something from me in the future. 

I spent a very brief period in my past working and living in New Zealand / Australia. It is something totally different. That was in 1997 and 2008, just 3 weeks in New Zealand in 2008. Literally after my 28 hour flight where I desperately wanted to go to bed. I was up for a further 9 hours socialising with the person I was renting a holday home from, invited to a social wine tasting drinks with several people, then invited by people there to join them next week for a chat and a meal. Within that brief time, I have had more social contact with my neighbours than a decade of living here.

Similar in 1997, although it was nearly 3 months in Sydney, Melbourne, and Aukland

In Sydney, during a month stay, I was invited to a meal with a friend of a work colleague, I was taking a week off work and she kindly offered me the use of her spare granny annex, car, and phone (to UK) for free (I did pay her when I left, as I felt that was the right thing to do). 

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    In over a decade my neighbours and I have never had a chat ever. I have never fallen out with any of them or had any conflict or negativity, nothing. Because I cannot negotiate the neuro-typical body language and chit chat rituals I am buggered. We don't even greet each other. Oh I have tried breaking the ice but because I am socially incompetent it always fizzles out very quickly, and that's the end of it forever, they avoid me like the plague because I am an alien culture they do not understand and do not know how to relate to me because my demeanor is different to the typical neuro-typical. Encounters are awkward and uncomfortable for them, and me, so we all just go our own seperate ways, passing each other like ships in the night even though it is broad day light. Very sad, because I am socially disabled I need neuro-typical people to make the extra effort and make it work but they do not have the motivation to do so. I am not an interesting and rewarding company. And of course they are blind to autism. So there we go. I am a socially excluded disengaged individual in the community, free as a bird but living in an invisible prison cell which has no bars living in solitary confinement.

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    In over a decade my neighbours and I have never had a chat ever. I have never fallen out with any of them or had any conflict or negativity, nothing. Because I cannot negotiate the neuro-typical body language and chit chat rituals I am buggered. We don't even greet each other. Oh I have tried breaking the ice but because I am socially incompetent it always fizzles out very quickly, and that's the end of it forever, they avoid me like the plague because I am an alien culture they do not understand and do not know how to relate to me because my demeanor is different to the typical neuro-typical. Encounters are awkward and uncomfortable for them, and me, so we all just go our own seperate ways, passing each other like ships in the night even though it is broad day light. Very sad, because I am socially disabled I need neuro-typical people to make the extra effort and make it work but they do not have the motivation to do so. I am not an interesting and rewarding company. And of course they are blind to autism. So there we go. I am a socially excluded disengaged individual in the community, free as a bird but living in an invisible prison cell which has no bars living in solitary confinement.

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