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Hi, I was going to post this in my other thread on neighbour problems.

One thing I am annoyed about is that my neighbours never communicate with me, unless they want something. OK I may have problems socialising and general chat, but I would guess most of those do not. Even if they don't want to be friendly with me, you would have though they would want to maintain some very loose sociable contact from time to time, as they are likely to want something from me in the future. 

I spent a very brief period in my past working and living in New Zealand / Australia. It is something totally different. That was in 1997 and 2008, just 3 weeks in New Zealand in 2008. Literally after my 28 hour flight where I desperately wanted to go to bed. I was up for a further 9 hours socialising with the person I was renting a holday home from, invited to a social wine tasting drinks with several people, then invited by people there to join them next week for a chat and a meal. Within that brief time, I have had more social contact with my neighbours than a decade of living here.

Similar in 1997, although it was nearly 3 months in Sydney, Melbourne, and Aukland

In Sydney, during a month stay, I was invited to a meal with a friend of a work colleague, I was taking a week off work and she kindly offered me the use of her spare granny annex, car, and phone (to UK) for free (I did pay her when I left, as I felt that was the right thing to do). 

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  • Yes, I think the thing about the high winds just shows us that if people face a common emergency or even a serious problem it tends to make them want to communicate with one another more, which can start a closer relationship, although not necessarily. 

    The Second World War or even the Falklands conflict gave something that people could talk about to each other and this is what gets people to 'break the ice' and begin to interact with one another. Normally, people go about their lives and their concerns and there is nothing compelling enough to make them want to get to know their neigbours and this is why things like clubs and pubs have been traditionally the means to socialise. The fact that someone is living right next door to you doesn't alter the fact that they are basically strangers and it takes an effort to get to know them.

    This forum is a good example of people sharing a common problem that brings them together to talk things over.

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  • Yes, I think the thing about the high winds just shows us that if people face a common emergency or even a serious problem it tends to make them want to communicate with one another more, which can start a closer relationship, although not necessarily. 

    The Second World War or even the Falklands conflict gave something that people could talk about to each other and this is what gets people to 'break the ice' and begin to interact with one another. Normally, people go about their lives and their concerns and there is nothing compelling enough to make them want to get to know their neigbours and this is why things like clubs and pubs have been traditionally the means to socialise. The fact that someone is living right next door to you doesn't alter the fact that they are basically strangers and it takes an effort to get to know them.

    This forum is a good example of people sharing a common problem that brings them together to talk things over.

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